my husband has a substance abuse problem. he does not seem to want to do anything about it. it is like he likes having a problem. we have 2 very small children together. should i leave him or ride it out hoping it will get better? what if it dosent? im not even sure i want to try. the whole thing has really made me kind of despise him. will i get over this if he gets help? and i have tried supporting him. all that does is make his abuse more. what should i do?
2006-07-06 12:39:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hunni, my heart goes out to you. It sounds like his problem is deep-rooted and he is in denial, sometimes, threatening to leave or actually leaving gives them a wake-up call. Though I understand the dilemma you have with 2 small children , I hope he is not abusive in anyway towards you or the kids. my ex-husband and I went through a very nasty break-up and he tried to turn our daughter who was 2 going on 3 at the time on me. Kids do remember, she has told me things that happened that I had hoped she would not remember. Hunni, I would tell him that if did not get help and change his behaviours that you will be leaving with the kids, because that is not a good atmosphere for you or them to be in .....hope this helps.......and thanks for the support.....he got me suspended but i am back , you can contact me if you would like to .. sure hope things get better for you
2006-07-07 11:34:12 · answer #1 · answered by ROCKER CHICK 4 · 13⤊ 2⤋
You have no choice. If he is refusing to seek any kind of help you have to do what is best for you and the children and that is to leave
2006-07-06 19:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your husband?? If so, then what you should do is first begin ""praying"" for him. Ask God to help him overcome this addiction.. Secondly, you should try and "calmly" and "lovingly" discuss the problem with him as often as possible. If he ties to avoid the subject, change your tone of voice and explain to him that you only want to help, BEFORE it destroys your marriage, because you "love" him. but that if he doesn't face his problem with you, he'll have to face it ""without"" you.
2006-07-06 19:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Trucker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your children you dont want them to grow up in that kind of inviroment do you? If he doesnt want to change leave him theres nothing you can do about it, you will only get hurt
2006-07-06 19:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get help and you staying around is not helping...you should not have to raise your children in that situation...
2006-07-06 19:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by jennifer b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only mother your children will ever have.
This is your most important job--to PROTECT THEM!!!
WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR?
SKY WRITING?
Get smart and get going.
2006-07-06 19:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on my funny word question i gave the 10 points to the guy that said penis...b/c i think that's cute. lol. but you were my 2nd choice. i wanted you to know. "titmouse" is hilarious.
2006-07-07 15:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave for the sake of your babies.
2006-07-06 19:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by estefany v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋