Young'ish; not bad looking with a good figure (dont want to boast); consider myself fun; open minded (open to most things); horny (enough said); scrub-up well for a night out ......... yet i find dating soooo darn hard.
Oh why is it sooo hard?????
Not long moved to an entirely new area; i know nobody and few have yet to realise i'm ...... wait for it ...... lesbian (((Shock horror)))!!
I don't know the area much, but i can tell you its a small community; mainly long-term locals. no sign of anything you might consider gay/les. Certainly no theme bars, cafes or anything.
On the few nights out i've had i've not once seen a les couple; it's beginning to freak me out.
Have i moved to lesbian hell?
Does this village not like incomers?
Is there a wicker man being built on the hilltop? lol
How do you meet new people when you dont know whos who, whats what or who's what?
Available: Single lesbian; free to good home; clean; good with pets & kids.
2006-07-06 12:31:34 · 14 answers · asked by just_jen2006 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Ok, forget the words "That Special Somebody"
and replace them with the term
"A New Love/Lust Interest"
2006-07-06 12:41:26 · update #1
Ah the joys of being gay in a small village, welcome to my world. Just take it steadily, mix with your new neighbours don't push your sexuality initially, as you make friends you'll find what's going on behind the curtains. People are more likely to accept you as a lesbian if they know as a friend first, but don't dodge the issue and lie.
Believe me you're not alone in that village, there's someone there for you.l
2006-07-06 23:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by mildly mad 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
OK for starters don't try to run before you can walk. You've just moved to a new area and your a lonely. What you need first off is connections. Just get out there and meet people - any people. Remember you're not looking for friends you're looking for acquaintances. So it could be the woman at the bakery that you chat to every morning, the guy at the library, the old duffer at the bus stop, the barmaid, the postman, the other people learning Spanish at night class. To a fun-loving city girl this might sound grim But think of it as a project with a time limit on it - you won't be doing this for ever.
Amongst those acquaintances there are going to be some that you get on well enough with to upgrade to friends. These people are going to provide your support network whether they be gay, straight, alien or whatever.
These friends are going to have other friends and acquaintances and through them you will have extended your circle. Someone, somewhere may know other singles looking for the right person and can introduce you.
And, if relationships don't work out, you have got a good group of friends who will rally around.
On the other hand if you just want sex then go for the small ads and hang the emotions.
2006-07-06 23:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mimette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sounds as though you need to get out of there! Your not going to meet any one if they are all straight. It seems that is your only problem, actually meeting someone. Is it possible for you to move? you are not going to find the woman of your dreams there by the sounds of it. You don't want to settle for just anyone there.
Seems to me you just need more opportunities to meet women and as you seem really funny it is not your personality that is the problem, just the place you live. You are just going to have to visit other places and find the scene and hopefully, as they say, the rest will follow!
Good luck.
Oh also love often appears when you aren't looking for it. :)
2006-07-06 12:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are more sensible than men, but if you resolved this by you accepting a slightly older man, the inequality of maturity would be resolved. Now the easy bit or in this case the hard bit! All we need to do is find you an available mature man to date. Where can we find one of those hmmmmmm give me a call !
2006-07-06 20:40:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a larger city nearby that might have places to meet people? What about with your job? It's hard to say without knowing where you are..
2006-07-06 13:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Paige 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babes get on gaydargirls.co.uk
register look up ya village and TADA!
i bet you find at least one person
well im not gonna place any money but you should come close!
2006-07-06 15:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one is special in their own way. don't look to hard. i don't believe there is just one special person or soulmate for each of us..
wot happens if your soulmate lives in china!
2006-07-06 12:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh dear looks like you are lonely. can you not move to the city?
2006-07-06 12:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you talk too much :-) don't tell people everything. Your intensity might scare people.
2006-07-06 12:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Vell g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because life is hard!!!
2006-07-07 04:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by PRIVATE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋