2006-07-06 12:12:56 · 7 answers · asked by Am 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Remove them from the situation that has gotten them down, and help them look at things objectively.
2006-07-06 12:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by reality check 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have done it many times
Once I had a friend that was beaten by her boyfriend so bad she was covered in bruises from her neck down to her feet.
She use to ring and tell me how bad it was until one day she told me of
For that instanced I thought she would be killed.
So I told her to run out of the house leave everything and go to a neighbor for safety till I could find someone to help her.
So she did that gave her courage to do it and hope her life could only get better.
Then to report him to Police and get a Restraining Order on him so she could get her stuff from the house.
She is very happy and a stronger person for it after a lot of hours talking with her,
She can look back today and see how much strength she has in her character and how she will never fall into that again.
One Lesson learnt well, but what a hard lesson.
Love & Blessings
Milly
2006-07-06 20:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any situation where you're trying to help, LISTENING, not talking, is the place to start. We all want to be heard and when we are heard, we tend to feel better and begin to have hope and courage that things can get better.
To get them talking so you can be listening, ask this person short questions to get them talking and thinking about the things they care about (their family, their friends, their partner, their work, the things they like to do, and their pets). Be sure you're getting them to talk about the postive things in their life - let them remind themselves of what makes them happy. Your questions should be short and open-ended (not a question they can answer with "yes" or "no"); you should give them lots of encouragement to talk about the good things they want to talk about and then LISTEN carefully and patiently.
Show a genuine interest in their ideas and thoughts - ask questions, respond to what they tell you with more interest and questions... show you care about what they tell you!
Ask about this person's dreams and plans. Ask questions to get them to dream positively about a near-future when they can make things better for themselves.
Don't tell them what to think - if you ask the right questions, this person will soon be talking about things that make them feel better. This technique takes patience, kindness, and compassion. It's not going to happen instantly or quickly, but when this person trusts that you really want them to tell you about the good stuff because you're really listening and caring, they will come out of their shell more and more.
2006-07-06 20:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Another 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By talking with that person. I always to that and it works all the time.Tell what you will do if you were in his/hers shoes.Say that encourage that person, you will find the good words, it's easy. Just stay calm and act naturally.
2006-07-06 19:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by Soso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always compliment them and never joke about there self confidence even if you don't mean to hurt they you'lll end up doing that anyway. Tell them personally stuff and show that you trust them becuase then they will open up to you.
2006-07-06 19:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer your support and encouragement.
2006-07-06 19:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-07-06 19:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by jonathon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋