I am a school teacher and every summer she and my daughter's father (stepmommie dearest instigates most of it) find some sort of why to ruin my summer and in some cases my life. I am a good mother and have good morals and values, otherwise I would not be teaching 8th graders.
Last summer I went through a custody battle, because I refused to pay for half of her private education (I am a public school teacher) I was told by the stepmother that they will pay for her schooling only if my daughter went to live with them. No Way! To make a long story short I won the custody battle after a year of worrying that I would loose my daughter because of allegations made by the step mother. In her eyes I am unfit because I have been married 4 times, I ride a motorcycle, and drag race. Oh and my husband has tatoos.
Well with that being settled, this summer is another battle. This time child protection services are involved. I have never done this women nothing, I am a very caring person
2006-07-06 12:11:46 · 13 answers · asked by harliechick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As for the the stepmother turning me in to Child Protective Services. This has really turned my world upside down. She has a way of manipulating my daughter to tell her things. She told my daughter that she was her best friend and could tell her anything. Well my daughter decides to tell her that she did not like the way her step father tickled her. Well that was all it took. Stepmommie went straight to CPS and reported the allegation. And that is when life in hell began. My husband has never touched my daughter in any inappropriate places. He plays and jokes with her like a father would with any child. I am always around when they play fight and she laughs and laughs and is having a good time. As a matter of fact, they sometimes drive me crazy because they are so loud. Anyway, my daughter did not mean to imply that he had sexually touched her in any way shape or form. Because of stepmothers actions, my husband had to move out of the house until the investigation is over.
2006-07-06 13:14:17 · update #1
If you have done nothing wrong, CPS will investigate and write a report that states allegations are unsubstantiated. I think you may need to go back into court and have the judge restrain this woman if she doesn't back off. You may even have grounds for harrassment charges, especially if she keeps calling CPS on you.
2006-07-06 12:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by themainsail 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear what you're going thru - sounds like a form of HELL! In fact - I know that it is!
In short this woman is evil - and as crazy as it may seems - she wants your daughter for her own - is this the step mother on the Fathers side.
This is a suggestion - If you're in court now for the lastest drama - if she's called protective services - you may.
You and your attorney can request the court to control, monitor, and even prevent the conflicts that she causes. You will need to document every interaction with dates, times, etc.
You see - she now has put Protective Services into the dynamics - this includes Social Services, Counsellors, and how situations and circumstances add or distract in family relationships. Even if this woman was the biological grandmother of your daughter - you can petition the court to control, monitor, and limit her contact - you can get rid of this women - thru the courts.
Girlfriend - calm down - think - talk to your lawyer - set up the guidelines and petition - be honest with your attorney about how this is causing anxiety - go to counselling - document every incident - do not engage contact - pray to the Lord Jesus Christ - and get this witch out of your life. You can restrict her and anyone else legally.
Get going Girlfriend and get your Summers and Life back!
For real! I just know that you're going to succeed!
2006-07-06 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by twinklecomfort 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the ex-husband doing in all this mess... Honey stand your ground fight to the bitter end and you need to let her know that your child affairs is between you and her father.. NOT HER!! What does it matter is your husband has tatoos or you ride.. YOU GO GIRL!!! Sounds like this other lady has really nothing else better to do in her life than to make a mess out of yours.. Don't let her push you around and your ex needs to grow a dick and be a man and stop letting his wife cause so much trouble.... good luck.
2006-07-06 12:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one question........where the heck is your ex-husbands balls (sorry to put it so bluntly)? Do they have children of their own and if they do then she needs to keep her big nose out of your business all the time. Seems to me that she is competing as to who is the better Mom, and she is very threatened and jealous of you. Otherwise, why would she spend so much time trying to make you appear bad......only to help her to feel better about herself. She sounds like a very insecure woman and needs something else to focus her attention on. Are you able to speak to your ex (without her being able to interrupt) and remind him that the daughter belongs to you two and you are the two that should be making decisions regarding her. I feel bad for you as I have been there myself......they just think they are these wonderful, unflawed women that know everything! You and I know better along with alot of other people that go thru these same things. Just stand up for yourself and keep her as far removed from you as possible......
document everything. She cannot harrass you.......turn the tables. Once legal action is placed in her direction, she will feel the discomfort.
How old is your daughter????
2006-07-06 12:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing it to make your life misrable. She thinks if she keeps on, you'll give in and let your daughter move in with them. It's a battle for her and don't let her win. Having tatoos, riding bikes, being married 4 times does not make you a bad person and the courts will know that. I feel sorry for you and wish you the best of luck.
2006-07-06 12:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All this is jealousy because you have his child! You need to tell the courts about it and have it put in your custody papers that she is to stay out of it. Alot of women think that when they get in a relationship that they can control every situation that a man is in and that's what she is trying to do. Trying to make him see that she wants to raise his kids and be the best so called step mommy she can. Tell your ex that he is to deal with you and you will not deal with her at all then tell him if she doesn't stop you are going to file harrassment charges against her and she what she says
2006-07-06 12:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like this woman loves drama. Don't get caught up in that, it's distracting. Concentrate on being a good mother to your daughter, b/c at the end of the day, she is the most important thing. And I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that after awhile, things will calm down.
2006-07-06 12:17:04 · answer #7 · answered by luckyirishgirl2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In her eyes, you're still a threat to the "security" she has with her husband, and she's a petty, jealous malcontent. I wish I was an attorney, because I'd TAKE this case!
2006-07-06 12:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is mad because her husband has a child with you. Don't let her ruin anything then she has won the battle
2006-07-06 12:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by HastyBabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u need to sue her
2006-07-06 12:15:42 · answer #10 · answered by robert c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋