Why is cheating such a big issue? And where does it begin?

Question

I am wondering if it really should matter if your partner cheated on you? How many people does it take to cheat, one, two or three? (who is to be blamed and why?). I always liked Bill Clinton's "I did not have sex..." where does one step over the line?

Answer 1

one steps over the line of "cheating" when they seek the fulfillment of a need or needs, be they sexual, emotional, or relational in nature, from someone other than their spouse. your spouse is to be the one person that you look to for support, comfort, emotional, relational, and sexual fulfillment. cheating is when you take this business elsewhere, and seek someone else to fulfill one of these needs, whether the spouse is fulfilling them or not.

Answer 2

Cheating begins when one steps outside of their boundaries to do things or be with someone other than the one they made the committment to. If the cheating is done but with someone who dosent know they are the significant other then the person keeping the secret is the blame. As many people who are involved is how many it takes. If you feel the need to cheat then you should be man or woman enough to tell the person you are cheating on that you, feel the need to do so. Of course it matters because that is a part of the trust issue that people seem to look over. Just because you don't have sex dosen't mean you are not cheating. The question should be why should you commit if you are not happy because happiness and trust is what holds a couple together. Without the two combined you basically have nothing and seek what you think is missing from the relationship from someone else, and that's where it all begins.

Answer 3

Cheating is a big issue because it hurts when someone cheats on you. Just what counts as cheating depends on the nature of your relationship.

I think there are two questions to ask yourself when it comes to whether or not an action is cheating. First, what would you do if you found out your partner had done the exact thing you're considering? If you don't want your partner to do it, it's probably cheating. Second, after you've done it, will you be comfortable telling your partner all about it, in every detail? If not, why not? If you are instinctively hiding it from your partner, chances are it's because you know it's not right.

Of course, beyond that, you should talk about the whole issue with your partner, and establish where your relationship is.

Answer 4

Of course it matters if your partner cheats on you. In my opinion 1 time is all it takes to consider it cheating. Kissing and heavy petting is also cheating in my book if it keeps on. Anything that would make your partner feel sick to their stomach finding out you did it with someone else is cheating.

If someone doesn't mind their partner sleeping with other people, then its not really a monogamous relationship therefore there would be no cheating. If someone keeps having these little lapses with other people, they should not waste their time in a relationship. They would not be tempted so often to "cross the line" if they truly cared for their partner.

Answer 5

If you had ever been cheated on you would know what the big deal was. Or if its you, you know how easy it is to fall into that area. Sex is sex no matter what some people say. And there is always some one who is going to get hurt by it. Besides all of the different kinds of things you can catch that you wouldn't want to pass on to the one you love.

Answer 6

It should matter.... Cheating, I think, is a vehicle for telling the person you are with that you don't care for just them anymore..
A cop out in other words...
Blame is put on both parties because clearly the communication is gone in the relationship that someone has to cheat...
Even if you only did it once... You have still betrayed the trust of someone you care about.....

Plus it sucks to be on the receiving end... I know that from experience.... Don't do it....

Answer 7

I believe it has a lot to do with the individual. For me, sexual fidelity is not the issue, it is emotional fidelity. Because if you give yourself, emotionaly, to someone that means you'll be around long after the viagra stops working. In contrast, I have a friend who is willing to divorce a man if he even speaks to another woman more than once on line. Perhaps she and I are the two ends of the extreme. But, I think "cheating" is something taken way too seriously in our society. I someone "cheats" on their spouse, do they still love their spouse in their heart ? That's the important thing.

Answer 8

cheating is only a big deal if ur in a relationship where u have gained the trust of the other and made them feel that u would never be with anyone but them.
if u arent ready for a one on one relationship and u still need to see other ppl, then its fine as long as everyone involved is aware of ur intentions.
and just think, if people didnt cheat, we wouldnt have to be subjected to the copious amount of amercian talk show shite like Jerry, Ricki and all the others that breed from human emotional misery!

Answer 9

all that stuff depends on the individual whats cheating to some is not to others it usually begins with boredom in the relationship i believe people should always be honest If you don't want to be monogamous tell the person in the beginning and give them the choice or if you feel like cheating tell your mate so you guys can fix problem or break up there are so many diseases out there that no one should be sleeping around

Answer 10

It depends on how serious the relationship is, It definately matters if its a sexual relationship . It takes 2 to cheat so both are to blame. One steps over the line when they cheat on someone who really loves them.. its not cool to go around hurting people for your own pleasure. (not you but the cheater)

Answer 11

Clinton cheated. how would you feel if you partner was doing something like that. the one that does the cheating is to blame for what is done. this is a really messed up question. how grown up are you? if you cheat you are a liar in my book.