She's around me, her dad & her grandmother, my husbands mother who is living with us until August, every day. She's is just fine around the three of us but when she's with my parents or with other people she starts to cry. I'm not sure if this is something that goes away with time or if there are things we can do to get her more comfortable with other people...especially my parents. I'm also concerned about this since my daughter is going to go into daycare in August - right now my husbands mother takes care of her during the day. Any helpe or suggestions will be great.
2006-07-06 11:38:22 · 12 answers · asked by Melanie P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's normal for a baby to cry around strangers. It is a good thing--it is a sign that she is developing normally. Babies *will* outgrow it, but it can take months or years. The way to get her to be more comfortable around your parents is to spend a lot of time with them.
As for daycare, that could be traumatic for her if she has trouble with strangers. It's too bad that your mother-in-law can't continue to care for her as it's the best possible type of daycare--being cared for by someone who loves her and has only *one* baby to care for. In daycare, she will be ignored more than cared for unless she is in a very small group (no more than 2 babies per adult and no more than 2-3 adults & 4-6 babies altogether).
2006-07-06 20:07:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is something that your child has to get used to, especially if you are putting her in daycare. She needs to experience being around other people more frequently so she can get used to it. My sister works at a daycare and there are kids that cry the whole time they are there and don't want to be touched by anyone. Good luck!
2006-07-06 18:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for babies to act this way. It is only natural for them to feel secure around individuals they are famillar with. As they grow older and develope the ability to remember and recongize individuals they have only seen for a brief time it will get better. It will be hard for her at first at daycare, but reassure her by going with her for one full day let her get familar with the surroundings. Then for a couple of days leave her a little longer at a time. She will be just fine. Hope all goes well.
2006-07-06 18:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by KLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should get her out and around more people. Your parents are going to have to come around more and vice versa. You will have to take her to them. She will have to get used to it. Eventually, she will get used to it. Depending on how old she is, it may take a while. When she starts to cry, don't be quick to take her back. She has to be able to self-soothe at some point. That's how she'll learn. You're not going to be able to run back and pick her up from daycare. She will learn that you will be back to get her.
2006-07-06 18:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took my kids along for a visit about 10am to their daycare as to get to know the carers and get used to the idea of slowly going to the facility. 10am is a good time as any time earlier is a busy time for drop offs of kids to daycare and the carers won't have the time to hold your baby or talk to you at length.
I have 4 children. They all began at one day and progressed to 2 days a week at daycare. They started at age 18nths. I guess by the time my girls went there they were ready to go as they had watched my boys go there and seen they have so much fun and get to go to parties...they have a bigger social calendar than we do as parents!!
So, go slow, introduce her slowly and then leave her there for short time and slowly extend it to the amount of hours you require :)
KIds are so elastic, they get used to things easy and they are in good hands if they are at a reputable place :)
2006-07-06 18:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by caz_v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babies generally are unsure of others. As she gets older she should generally grow out of it. She may go through a period of seperation anxiety around 8-12 months, where she won't want to go to anyone she doesn't know.
2006-07-06 18:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by mamashell19962001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is completely normal, those are just her instincts. Your parents are basically strangers to her, so she doesn`t trust them. It takes a while, be patient. The more she is around other people the fast she will warm up to them.
2006-07-06 19:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My baby does this and the solution is simple. Make the person who wants to hold her wait for 10 or 15 minutes before they grab her. My baby likes to be respected and to choose who she wants to go to. I allow her that respect for herself and I want her to know that her opinion matters. Babies can't just be passed around like hot potatoes, they are people too! Try it out and see how it works.....good luck to you!
2006-07-06 19:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by all_my_armour_falling_down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience, it does fade away, my daughter screamed when anyone but myself my husband or my mother touched her, my suggestion is to get a babysitter once a week or so, someone new, but someone you trust to get her warmed up to different people, it is frustrating and a bit heartbreaking, but in my experience does get better with time
2006-07-06 19:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by dawnsabrat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was the same way, as they get older it won't be that way. She's just unsure or uncomfortable around those other family members because she doesn't know them as well as the three of you.
2006-07-06 18:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by youngmom182002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋