i live with this guy that i have been with for 4 years. he doesnt want to commit to a relationship because he wants an easy way out if something comes up. he has been married twice and compairs me to them all the time saying he is tired of being used. how can i make him see im different?
2006-07-06 11:35:59 · 7 answers · asked by Rachel F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, living with him for 4 successive years of sacrifice is not bad if you think that you are loving him all the way,but ohhhh my girl don't forget that you have to love yourself too,find a way for your self.talking back about how different you are from his previous ones,it don't need an effort,just relax and take it easy,don't push yourself that you are different ,he can realize it by himself sooner or later.do'nt forget THE MORE YOU HIT THE BALL,THE MORE IT BOUNCES.....we say it in tagalog (the more you hit the more you kuhit.......
2006-07-12 13:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by archiemedes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Lots of guys get gun-shy after going through a divorce, let only two! If you're hell bent on getting married, it might be best that you find someone else. Easier said than done...but if he dones't want a commitment, you can either hang around (and who knows for how long till, and if, he ever changes his mind), or you can leave. Try to sit him down and talk to him. Explain to him that it's very important to you to have some type of commitment, or you will find someone who feels the same as you. If he can't understand that, then the rest is totally up to you!
2006-07-06 18:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want too say that in four year he does not consider you marriage material,
you are going to be let down,
if he has been married, twice, and has bad experiences, maye he also is a bad risk. Depending on your age and life goals, i think you should take a long
hard look at your life and what is missing, and what is ok
If you want to grow old with this man, have security, be importand and your needs are importand you better tell him if it is just convienence, that is not enough.
As it is, he wants your companionship, a person to cook for him and care for
him, his needs are met,,, if he doe not want to go further, than he is just a roommate that gets sex benefits, and you have nothing to look forward, to,
do decide, exactly how you want to map out your life, maybe it is that you will bbe content, as is, i know only things won't change if you do not change.....
good luck
2006-07-06 19:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u been with him for 4 yrs then honey, there isnt a damn thing u can do. Leave him, then maybe he will realize u are different. If he doesnt come back then its obvious he doesnt care for u. You deserve better.eventually u will find someone who loves u.By the way, he's been married twice, doesnt that say something?
2006-07-06 19:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Moniluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him that you are not like those women that wants to ruin your life and doesn't want to break his heart. Tell him you love him and why you love about him then he'll won't feel bad about himself and he'll learn to love a woman again. I would do the same thing if a boy I love was afraid to remarried again.
2006-07-06 18:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by monnurse7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be you. Be open, honest, trusting, loving, forgiving. If that doesn't work, then there is no helping your problem because he doesn't want things to improve.
2006-07-06 18:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by John H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cant see it now then probably never will.
2006-07-06 18:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋