How do i get over my ex girlfriend, its been over 3 years, she haunts my every thought. Nicci van Lingen?

Question

I Remember Our Moments Like They Were Just Yesterday,
Those Moments Are Forever Stained on the Life’s Page’s Of My Soul.
Ah, My Soul….
For The First Time Ever…Today I Actually Felt My Soul,
Shifting Like a Storm,
Oh, how she moves my Soul?

That Feeling, So intense, that for a minute that seems like a day,
I am taken so far away,
Just her,
Just I
And Moments Play…
Though These Thoughts Hurt so Much,
They Make Me So Happy Sad…
Happy Times, Sunshine Smiles,
Stormy Days and Teary Ways…
God…. Tell Her I Miss That So Much!
Tell Her I Miss Her Early Morning Goodbyes

I Know I Love her Because,
She Has Become These Words.
These Words Are Not Mine,
They Are her,
Without her, they are echoes in the Dark,
Lost In A Loveless World

For she is Everything,
She Is Everywhere….
In A Cloud, In A Flower, A Floating Bee
The Moon, .A Star
A Wave, a Smile,
A Tear
Everywhere….
In The Sky,
In My Last Kiss Goodbye!

And Still Days Go By and Still I Survive,
But Life’s Blunt Point Is Not to Survive,
Life’s Fine Point is About Moments spent in
Serenity, Childs Play and Eternity
Sadness, Friendship and Togetherness!
About Moments that move you…
Like The Waves She Moves onto The Shores Of My Soul.

And When I’m Grey and Old I’ll remember this…
No One can ever replace her …
She’s one of a Kind,
Like An Undiscovered Flower on a Mountain,
No One but I Can Find…

And So I Conclude With This….
If ever I Am asked, “Have you Ever Been in Love?”
I’ll reply with a Tear of Joy on My Cheek,
“She Came Like the Wind and Blew Me Away, and Like a Passing Cloud She Goes By,
Love has Changed Me Forever.
And on One Dark and Unsuspecting Day, In This Life or the Next, I’ll follow the stars And Find My Way Back to Her”
And With a Low and Lovely Whisper,
Night After Night, For the Rest of My Life I’ll Remember This “I Have Been in Love, And Love Itself has been in Love with me!”

Answer 1

Speak with her and find out what's going on in her life. You will never know until you try.

Answer 2

What you are doing is called "pining" for a lost love. We have all been there, but three years is a long time to pine! According to Psychology Today, source quoted below - it is because you might need to ALLOW yourself time to pine - time to mourn the loss of the relationship.

Do not suppress the thoughts of her. Each time you try not to think about her, it makes it worse. Think, grieve, cry, get angry - and that will help you get over it. Once you get to the angry stage, start thinking, "Yeah, Jennifer and I used to love this restaurant - why can't I still enjoy it by myself?" and you will be making moves in the right direction.

If that doesn't work, I would suggest counseling, as the internet can assist you only so much.

Answer 3

Dude, wake up and get over her. You need to realize its over. MOVE ON! If it didn't work out, there is obviously a reason. You've wasted three years of your life being depressed about not being with her and dreaming of being with her. You could've found a new love by now. You may think that no one else out there can make you feel like she did, but that is most definitely not true. You may not find her right away, but if you're not trying, then you will never find her. I'm NOT saying to find a replacement for her, but I'm saying to find someone better than her.....someone who can make you feel like you've never felt before. I've had trouble getting over girls before, but there comes a point where you have to wake up and move on. As you move on, don't necessarily forget her, just DON'T float on what you two were at one time. That time is over. Move on and good luck!

Answer 4

If she has no husband id say its nicely worth a shot. yet save in concepts its been 10 years no contact, people replace by skill of the years, so in case you do attempt to get her back, do not imagine she will have the ability to be precisely as you keep in mind her all those years in the past. there is continually that one human being that continually keeps a flicker of a fireplace on your heart although, when you're fortunate adequate to get that individual back, or a minimal of have the prospect to attempt for it. I say bypass for it, because as I see it; it would nicely be 10 years from now youll be regretting that you not in any respect took the hazard, or it will be 10 years from now and also you'd be mutually with her having a existence mutually fortuitously. You get to choose which street to take. in simple terms keep in mind that any happieness is nicely well worth the hazard, and be apologetic about is one gruesome street to seem back on. good success i am hoping this become helpful to you.

Answer 5

Like Usher said..."you got it bad". I don't envy you! One way MIGHT be to create another avenue of happiness. If she comes back after all of this time, I can just about bet my paycheck on it, that she's not going to be the same person and the relationship won't go back to how it was. Another way to get over her is to stop listening to all of those sappy love songs, quit watching sappy movies and do something constructive with all of that pent up energy...and QUIT going out with every girl that LOOKS LIKE, SMELLS LIKE, TALKS LIKE, or even reminds you of her! LOL

BTW I have been there. I was priviledged to marry my first love. It didn't last, but I'm priviledged to say the same. Kudos to you for having the experience.

Answer 6

Is that her real name you've used, or a nickname?
If its her real name, you don't know where the boundaries are. Thats very intrusive and off - putting. You should show some respect for her and delete it. You don't have the right to use someone elses name on the internet.
Are you hoping she'll see it and come back to you? Its been 3 years and you still won't let go and move on. Thats not devotion, thats obsession.
You are seeing this from one side only and through rose tinted spectacles. Please go for cognitive behaviour therapy. Learn to let go and move on.

Answer 7

you are suffering bad, but you may grow another skin, it's not to be. go fill the empty heart with a new exciting girl, there are lot's of em about.

you'll see, it will fix the broken heart and mend it like it was never in an accident in the first place.

Answer 8

Over 3 years!?! That's not love that's an obsession. Get help.

Answer 9

Wow... that's really deep. Two things; read that to her and hope she comes back, or find an even hotter girl and get her as a girl friend.

Answer 10

Awwwwwwwwwwww how sweet !!! :) I wish my man (@ da time) woulda written a poem for MEEEE !!!

Maybe... just MAYBE... this would win her heart back. BUT, don't be surprised if she's w/ someone else already. Be prepared to hear a no if you decide to ask her to come back in to your life.