2006-07-06 11:26:30 · 12 answers · asked by freznetto381843 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We started in highschool and now we are about to graduate college. I love her in that I care for her well being but I don't think that I am IN love with her and she is very much IN love with me. We have no common interests, and I honestly disagree with just about everything she thinks to be right, but we get along. I've tried to break up with her many other times but I give in to her constant sobbing phone calls. I think we might have hooked up right after she a traumatic expeirence and that just made her infatuated with me. Im racking brain over this and have been for the past 6 months.
2006-07-06 11:37:28 · update #1
you need to be up front with your girlfriend. let her know how you feel about marriage and be honest. and the sooner the better! she probably already has expectations of a future together so let her know. also, perhaps you need to explore your aversion to commitment as well and the reasons why you don't want marriage. is it a general feeling or you just don't want to marry your current girlfriend? think it over . . . good luck!
2006-07-06 11:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Fashionista 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
How old are you and when you say you don't want to get married does this mean:
You don't want to ever get married to anyone
you want to get married someday just not right now
You want to get married but never to your current girlfriend
Have you told her how you feel or lead her on to think that you want to marry her someday? If you're still young (lets say 25 or under), date her for awhile longer if you think you may change your mind. If you've reached an age where alot of your friends are getting engaged/married, then you have to tell her how you feel so that she knows she's wasting her time by being with you if she does think there's a future.
2006-07-06 11:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you were up front with her from the beginning then I don't see what the problem is. If SHE is wanting to get married, you need to let her know that THAT is just not going to happen, and then let her go so she can find the person she is meant to be with. I wish you luck!
2006-07-06 11:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by carolscreation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her so..I dated a girl for 6 years and never wanted to marry her either..
2006-07-06 11:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by tchem75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and tell her just what you've told us. You LOVE her but you are not IN LOVE with her. Point out the differences to her (EX: you love ice cream, baseball and weekends BUT you are in love with......) Let her know that in the future your feelings may not change one way or the other so the both of you need to explore other avenues. It may hurt her and even you to be so straight forward but please pull the bandage off in one pull instead of slowly pulling and causing so much pain.
2006-07-06 11:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont want to get married?
she should dump you!!!
i live with the same guy for 16yr and he said in 2 years he would talk about marriage and kids, but never did,
2006-07-06 11:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the poor girl go. For her own sake.
Be gentle, good luck
2006-07-06 13:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Stephanie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you don't want to get married period, or don't want to get married to HER. Good luck:)
2006-07-06 11:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simpl, Don't get married? easy huh!
2006-07-06 11:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move in with her, hey not all people are meant to get married. hopefully she will be ok with that
2006-07-06 11:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by estefany v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋