should i still be nice?

Question

my family and friends say i'm 2 nice and that i should only worry about myself and not other i don't like that idea but maybe i should stop be nice people take me for granted my trust, love i been hurt from my friends and 1 that i loved and i'm still friends with the that hurt me i don't know if i should be friends with the one that i used 2 love what should i do still be nice or be a mean 1

Answer 1

be nice, just beware of those who use your nicesness to abuse you.... good luck :)

Answer 2

Hello Victoria! I think you sound like a nice person... I would continue to be nice. Just check what's BEHIND your "niceness"... that's the most important thing. If you are nice even when someone else hasn't been nice to you and the root cause behind your niceness is that you're AFRAID to stand up for yourself, then it might be time for a change of attitude and you SHOULD start standing up for yourself. However, if you're the type of person who generally just let's stuff roll off your shoulders, if you can put yourself in other people's shoes and see that maybe they're just having a bad day or whatnot, then you're doing the right thing by being nice. Don't change a thing. Just don't confuse "nice" with meek or being too scared to stick up for yourself... there's a big difference. Take it easy and good luck!

Answer 3

I say that you should be nice. It's your life, and you have the right to do whatever you want to do and whatever you think is right. Just continue being nice, and people will treat you nicely. If your friends still complain that you are too nice, then they are not your friends, because they should accept you for who you are. Don't let people take you for granted.

Answer 4

Females are all way nice that is the way they where brought up. But you shouldn't stop being nice. But you shouldn't be over friendly in a way that you would get used. And if someone use you, means that they are abusing you. Which you don't need to be friends with. So if anything hurts it is abuse, and you have to remove any one or thing that hurts you.

Answer 5

Don't stop being nice, but be careful who you are nice to. A lot of people will take your niceness for granted. Add a little more common sense to your niceness and you should be ok.

Answer 6

I think you should still be nice. Kill them with kindness (but not really kill). You catch more bees with honey. Need anymore cliches? If you act or feel angry, it only hurts you inside. We all know that. We've all been hurt and screwed over by people (some you'd least expect). One of these days someone is going to appreciate you for the way you are. But make sure you are acting the way you "feel" in your heart. Don't be super nice if it is eating you up inside. You do need to still stick up for yourself too.

Answer 7

sweetie, thats ur personality and u know u can not change that! its not ur fault that u have a sweet and caring heart so just be yourself.. do whatever that makes u happy and i agreed saying how u should worry about yourself before u worry about anyone else. people say the same thing about me but i cant help it but to be nice, so many people take me for granted, and i got betrayed many times so we just gotta be careful on trusting others because the truth is not many people can be trusted!!!

Answer 8

You are who you are and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. Being nice is not a bad thing. Should you learn to be careful and check things out, yes, but to not be nice, no. You are wonderful just the way you are so don't go changing just because others are intimidated by your ability to be nice to others.

Answer 9

There is nothing wrong with being to nice Because i am the same way, but sometimes you just got to know when to say no.

Answer 10

Hey...I have the same problem. It's hard to be mean to anyone cause they're just human. But at the same time you need to worry about yourself. Just trust yourself and be cautious of who you're nice to.

Answer 11

Be nice I like nice people.