I am married and my husbands ex keeps calling him. He says there just friends. What should I do?

Answer 1

does he have kids with her... tell him you are not comfortable with him talking to his ex... and it needs to stop.... he might not like that and may think you are over reacting.... so he may begin... talking to her behind your back... you feel me.

Answer 2

I have been the first wife, the second wife, and the ex wife.
First and foremost you need to feel completely comfortable in this arrangement in whatever way it takes to keep safety and trust between you and hubby. Because if you don't it will only lead to a hard time ahead for you all, but you especially.
If their love is gone and no chance of it being rekindled and he always tells you if they talk and what it is about, just like he would if he was talking to a family member, then don't feel threatened. Don't be blind either. My second husband and I are now able to talk like he would his buddies, but we are 2000 miles apart. We still love each other, but realize we are better friends then we made a married couple. Watch out for yourself. Don't let this destroy you. You said, "keeps calling" what does she have to talk to him so much about? You might want to research this and then make a decision as to the next step.

Answer 3

My husband had many lady-friends when we were married. And he honestly thought they were just friends. But we know more about the nature of women, don't we?

Through gentle teasing, I told him that they wanted more: that they were keeping him in their lives in case they ever wanted more. "D*ck in a glass case: in emergency break glass." I pointed out their flirting, and the fact that they'd always ask how he liked being married, and asked about my shortcomings, trying to find any. Then he started to see it in them.

As they saw he was happy, they called less often.

Now, when he gets a "are you still married" call or email every 6 mos, he gets more pissed off than I used to. He honestly thought they were his friends, and he's hurt that they were using him.

But I had to be subtle about it, not accusing. Or he wouldn't have discovered it on his own, and would have resented me "attacking" his "friends".

Answer 4

They might be friends but I think it makes for a very sticky situation. If she is truly his friend she should understand and so should he. Tell him how you really feel and don't play games. I don't believe in talking to the other woman,it makes you look insecure no matter what impression you think you are conveying
If he won't talk to you on an adult level about this subject,and you let him get away with it,you will only have yourself to blame for future situations..

Answer 5

I told my husband right before we got married that he had to chose between me and his ex wife. They never had kids together and there was know reason to keep in contact with her if he loved me. So I'm glad to say he told her goodbye.

Answer 6

If there are no kids involved and this isn't about the kids there is no reason for him to be talking to her. He needs to realize that by talking to her he is hurting you and depriving the two of you of time that could be spent together. He needs to either choose you to be his wife and best friend or go back to her but not do both. Talk to him and explain to him how it makes you feel and that you feel it is wrong. If he loves you he will respect you and care enough about his marriage to you to stop talking to her.

Answer 7

Get call blocker and block all her numbers out...Then tell your husband if he talks to her again his crap will be in the road along with his butt.

Answer 8

be suspicious until proven otherwise. your husband needs to put a stop to it. having his ex call him at home is being disrespectful to you.

Answer 9

Unless they have kids there's no reason for her to call. Call your exes and see if it's okay with HIM. Good luck.:)

Answer 10

Tell your husband this is unacceptable if there are no children! Stand up for yourself.