he is 10 years-old,i have always made him feel that if he needs to talk about anthing or has any questions about anything to come to me for help.Today i call a call at work ,and it was my son.i could tell in his voice that something was wrong, he told me he felt guilty and i asked him why, he said that he touched his own privet part and felt a tingling feeling.he asked ifthat was normal and i told him yes. then i told him not worry about it that it's normal. i told him not to feel guilt. i'm stuckireally don't know what else to tell him, can someone give me advice please., i mean how far should i take this.
2006-07-06 10:36:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
than you, everone for you help. all the information really helped.
2006-07-07 17:18:10 · update #1
When you get home, sit down next to him (without looking at him so he doesn't feel under a microscope) and just tell him the truth. Let him know about the vast quantity of nerve endings in that part of his body, what they are for, and that yes, it's normal for the body to enjoy being touched. Let him know that he's beginning to grow up and his hormones are beginning to barely start running. Add that while it may feel pretty good, it's not a good idea to over-do for a lot of reasons, health being one of them. Then, if he has any questions you can't answer, it's time to hit the library - there are books there to help you explain to him what is going on.
2006-07-06 10:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by PuterPrsn 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Tell him it is a natural part of growing up and answer any questions he has the best that you can. If you have a brother or close friend maybe he should be enlisted to help explains things that only a man would know. Do NOT tell him it is dirty and not to touch himself because the guilt would be to much for him when he does masturbate(and he will).You don't have to explain all about sex right now but if he asks do tell him. Hopefully you will be able to explain things to him so that he is comfortable with his maturing body and not be guilty anytime that he becomes erect which will happen everyday and more than once a day as he is getting more mature. I hope this info is helpful to you and that you feel comfortable enough to explain things and talk to your son about this very special time in his life. If needed feel free to ask for help from someone who you feel would be helpful in explaining things in detail. Good Luck with your talk
2006-07-06 19:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal and all normal boys start masturbating. This is natural and important for his future sexual health. Feeling guilty is obvious because our society is as it is. What you should do is find lots of medical information on this and let him read, so that he wouldn't feel guilty. Children who were punished for masturabation or affected in some other way suffer consequences in their adult sexual life.
So, the bottom line is: find and read the true medical facts on this and let your son read. And just say that masturabation is a normal and necessary part of any man's life.
2006-07-06 18:23:44 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him about the parts, and that they belong to him, and he can explore them however he likes as long as he keeps it private and he doesn't hurt himself.
Tell him there's nothing to be ashamed of but it's not appropriate to talk about except with a parent in private. Tell him that if any other man ever tries to ask about it or see it, etc that he needs to promise to tell you no matter what, even if the person makes a threat to keep it secret. Tell him you have ways of making sure that nothing bad will happen to him if he tells you.
At 10 years old that should be enough.
2006-07-06 17:42:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this matter maybe U can have a talk with yours son like my
mom did.Remember that time my mom asked me for a shower
with her.I'm feel embarrassing that moment when we are naked.
But my mom just want me to know the different between boy and
girl body part.She help me know about the sex matter in a right
way in that shower time.Even she told me masturbation just a normal thing to do in ours life.So I think U can do this with yours
son.I'm sure U get closer with your son after this.
2006-07-07 00:26:37 · answer #5 · answered by hAPPY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should feel gratified that you and your son have the kind of relationship in which he feels comfortable bringing it up. Follow the advice given in previous answers and talk to him factually and non-judgmentally, and above all reassure him that nothing is wrong.
2006-07-06 21:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by gp4rts 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the sex talk already and how guys differ from girls. That's a good age to tell him the birds and the bees.
2006-07-06 17:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by VandyViolin09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's normal for a boy his age don't worry just talk to him about it
2006-07-06 19:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by sarah k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some porn
2006-07-06 17:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by pancho 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋