my boyfriend wants me to put the baby up for abortions when i have it should i do ti or keep ti please help me

Answer 1

UR BOY FRIEND IS ONE SERIOSE DICK HEAD HE SHOULD NOT BE TELLING U WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR BABY LET ALONE TELLIN U TO HAVE AN ABROTION !!!! ABORTIONS ARE WRONG AND SICK !!!!! DONT DO IT GOD WILL BE VERY DISAPIONTED IN U !!!!!

Answer 2

I assume you meant put the baby up for adoption, not abortion. Either way, this is your choice. You know who the father is and he will have to pay child support no matter what... if you decide to keep it.. But take a look at your own life. Can you support a baby that will cost you hundreds of dollars every month by yourself. If the answer is no, and your parents can't or won't help you (you sound young) then adoption may be the best thing for your child. You can choose adoption, abortion (which means you would not carry the baby much longer) or you can choose to keep it. Look up information about all three options, and write down what you like and don't like about each. Make your own decision based on those reason. Adoption may be the best thing for you and your child, it is not an unreasonable option, but it is YOUR choice, not his.

Answer 3

You mean adoption? That is your call. How old are you? The decision on whether or not to give your baby up for adoption is all on you honey! Regardless of what you choose it is a life altering decision!!! If you keep the baby you are responsible for another human being for the rest of your life, if you give the baby up for adoption you will have to live with that feeling for the rest of your life, and wonder where the baby is (in some cases), and how it is doing, etc. Adoption is not a BAD thing, but abortion I TOTALLY disagree with. In the end YOU are the only one who had to live and deal with your decision, so make the one YOU think is best for your child, because that is all any of us can do, but at least give the baby a chance!!!

Answer 4

It's your baby too. YOU decide. And I think you mean "put it up for ADOPTION when you have it"... Abortion is totally different.

But in any case, it's the woman's decision, the father cannot legally make the decision for you. Just so you know. Really research the pros and cons of each, because there's no going back. Adoption (as well as abortion) can be really hard on the mother if not thought about and chosen carefully. Don't do anything hastily. Take your time. You have plenty of time to make that kind of life-changing decision.

Good luck with whatever you decide!!

Answer 5

Giving your baby up for adoption is NOT punishing the baby. It is giving him or her a chance to grow up with loving parents who have committed to each other through marriage. My husband and I just adopted a baby after trying for two years to have one ourselves. One of the adoption counselors that we worked with explained it this way:

Imagine you and your boyfriend have been asked to babysit a little neighbor child. You look away for a minute and when you turn back you see that he is in the middle of the road and a truck is about to hit him. You have four options.

First, you can just sit and watch as he is hit and killed. This is equivalent to choosing to have an abortion.

Second, you and your boyfriend can both run out into the street and grab him and hold him in your arms as you are all hit. You know that you will all be hurt this way, but you may survive. This is equivalent to marrying your boyfriend and raising the child together.

Third, you can run out alone and hold him while you are both hit, again hurting both of you. This is equivalent to choosing to keep the baby and raise it alone.

Fourth, you can run out and grab the child, then throw him into the arms of a loving couple that is standing just on the other side of the street. You will be hit, and you may or may not survive, but the child will be okay. This is equivalent to giving the child up for adoption.

All of the options are going to be painful, but you will have to choose between them. As an adoptive parent, I advise you to choose the option that will be best for the child, as he or she has no say in the matter. There are so many people who can't have a family any other way, and wait years and years to be able to adopt. You have the ability to make something that could be tragic into a miracle and a blessing for someone else. I hope you choose to do this.

Answer 6

I personally do not believe in abortion so I would say no if you don't want it put it up for adoption. If you want it and he doesn't then he should have wore a condom. You don't need him to raise a child. All I'm saying is can you live with the fact that you killed another human being that did not ask to be in you. Also if you chose to have the baby and put it up for adoption there are several other people out there who would adobt a baby in a heart beat who can not concieve themselves. Think about it

Answer 7

Honestly, if I were you I'd keep it. Why should
the baby be punished? It's not his fault you two weren't ready, right? In the end you'll probably regret giving it up. One of my friends has two children and shes only 18. She's going to college and getting an education. So don't think there isnt a way. You will make it through this. After all you should both take responsibility for your actions.

Answer 8

You mean adoption? It should be totally up to you. Just talk it over with him. It also depends on whether or not you can financially support a child. If you had the baby by accident (I'm assuming that's true by instinct), then you should decide if this is really what both of you wanted or if you are truly prepared for responsibility.

Answer 9

First of all, you mean adoption. Second of all, he can't tell you what to do. Do you want to keep it? If you do then there is nothing he can do about it. The only reason he wants you to put it up for adoption is to prevent him from having to pay child support. Tell him to grow up and accept responsibility for his actions.

Hold on, you said earlier that this is your third child, why would you want to seperate your children? Have you thought about what your other children would say if you don't keep the baby? You should keep it and ditch your boyfriend for even asking you to do that.

Answer 10

This is too serious a question to be asked in here. You are talking about deciding a child's destiny. Perhaps you need to seek advice from someone with experience in these matters. Try speaking to your doctor or an adult member of your family.

I hope you make the right decision, with the least painful consequences for all concerned.

Answer 11

It is "put the baby up for adoption, or abortion which is kill the baby before birth." Dont do either on. Dump the bf and keep the kid!