What do I tell them?

Question

I just had a miscarriage Tuesday and I'm really not up to talking to anyone yet. My friends are persistently calling wondering why I don't call back or answer the phone. I would like to talk to my best friend, about it because I know she's been through it. Does anyone know how long it will be when I feel like talking about it? They don't even know it happened. What do I tell them until I'm ready to talk?

Answer 1

I would advise to start by calling your closest friend and have her over so you can talk face to face and in privet. Then just tell her it will hurt you will get chocked up the words will be hard to say because once you tell someone then deep inside (where you keep telling your self it cant be real this can't be happening) you will know it is real. This is a time in your life when your true friends will stand out. There is nothing anyone will be able to say that will make it better,but your friend can just allow you to cry on her shoulder.
Also I would advise as some one who has had a baby who died and knows the loss to get counseling. You will never "get over: this but with lots of love and understanding you will get through this.
I will pray for you.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you'll be able to recover soon.

You're the only one who knows when you'll be ready to talk to anyone about this and even though it'll be hard for you, you'll be able to face it in the future and somehow be able to move on. If your friends are wondering why you haven't called for so long, just tell them that you've been busy and had a lot of things to do and sort out. It won't be the same as telling them the truth and they'll stop asking the same questions every minute. When you're ready, talk to your best friend (who had the same thing happen to her) and ask her how she was able to go through this. Knowing what's been happening in your life, will make her be a little bit more protective of you as well as be able understand you even more. She'll be able to guide through this and both of you will be able to heal a lot sooner than anyone even realises.

Even if it'll take weeks, months, years, or even decades to tell your other friends the truth about this Tuesday, they'll be able to understand you. Just to let you know, female friends can at times understand you a lot faster and a lot better than anyone else who's close to you. Even though they haven't been through this, they'll sympathize with you and lend a helping hand whenever you'll need them. Just be honest with them and if you're not ready to talk about something, just let them know... they'll wait for you even if it'll take a decade or a century for you to open up.

Best of wishes and take care. I hope everything will turn for the best for you and everyone else :)

Answer 3

since ur friends are calling u, then that means they care and wanting to know what's going on in ur life, u shouldnt ignore them because if they dont call u then u'll think that they careless so what i think u should do is to face the reality, girl.. u cant change for what had happened but u still can appreciate those ones who cares before u lose them next!! call them back, u are ready to talk.. its all in ur head thinking that u're not but trust me girl.. as soon as u start talking to them again, u'll feel the loving and caring that friends can offer!!

Answer 4

right now you don't owe it to anyone to give an explaination. take your time, but dont get used to staying in bed all day and being distant from people who love and care about you. if you do, thats a sign of depression and you should get some help, then you really should start talking to someone. but it's all fresh, so take a little time for yourself. in the mean time if people keep buggin you say your not feeling well, you wouldn't be lying.