How do I stop my 6 years old student from masturbating?

Question

I am a teacher since 2000, I teach kids from kinder to 3er grade, I have a little girl in 1st grade that masturbate all the time, she uses her chair to do it, I already had 2 girls like that before, I know it is normal untill 2nd grade but the problem I have with her is that she cant concetrate at all, she is quite behind her classmates, I talked to her, explained that she must stop doing it in class, but she gets angry when we ask her to stop.
I read a little about that, my biggest conce5rn is that she is hurting herself, she walks funny and I am afraid something more seriuos happenned to her, talking with her parents wont help at all, because they just dont care about her. Pls help!

It is normal to kids to do it, they are just discovering the body, is not something bad, she doesnt know anything about sex, she only knows that when she moves on her chair she feel good.

I am a teacher in BRAZIL!!! not US so please dont worry about my bad english

I already had 2 girls that used to do that also, we talked with her parents and a phichologist told us that is quite normal for a kid to do it, we already talked with this kids parents and the principal at school, but their parents just dont care about it, I can´t call social services because I have no proobs something bad is happening.

Answer 1

Are you sure she is masturbating? Is it possible she has an infection affecting the area and it's causing her discomfort? Is it possible that someone may be abusing her and that's causing discomfort? Have your school counselor get involved.

Answer 2

Bring it to the attention of the principal and see what he/she thinks should be done about it. The first recourse should be to talk to the parents, unless you think she is being sexually abused. If that is the case it is your obligation to call in child protective services, but make sure you seriously think something is going on because the child protective people don't always do what is in the best interest of the child and can really tear families apart that aren't deserving of it. I know little girls and boys both like to play with themselves and it's natural to a certain point. By age six she should know better than to do it in public and should feel embarassed about being caught doing it. Something else probably is going on at home or daycare.

Answer 3

Maybe its time to bring in some other resources at the school. Strictly from an academic point of view she might need to seen by a special ed teacher, principal or whatever the chain of command is in your district to determine if there is something else going on that is not quite normal - such as abuse or a learning disability or behavioural problem. I am not sure this is something you can or would want to fix all on your own. I am not a teacher but that's how I think I would handle it.

Answer 4

Contact Child Protective Services.

Answer 5

Well if talking to her parents won't help, you need to notify the principal and seek his/her guidance. If the principal is not helping you need to talk to social services or contact someone in special education or even early childhood education (psl notify the principal of your actions). The child needs to be looked at medically, and maybe a psychological solution can be found to use in the classroom that can make the situsation seem less disturbing, and gain the child's concentration again.

Answer 6

SEXUAL ABUSE! Come on! Are you freakin' stupid?

The reason the parents don't care you fool, is probably because they are the ones abusing the child.

The child is acting out for 2 reasons:
1. She is trying to get your attention.
2. She is traumatized by the sexual experience and obsessed with it.

CALL THE POLICE! TELL THE ADMINISTRATION NOW! GO TO A LAWYER, JUDGE, OR SOCIAL WORKER NOW!

You sir are a fool! You don't recognize that 6 year old typically don't behave this way unless their is serious trouble? Why the heck are you a teacher? I am seriously shocked at how dumb you are. NOW GO!

Answer 7

It sounds like there is a real problem from home, possibly her father or someone in her home is abusing her, I can't believe you would not be so concerned to not have instantly called child protective services, you are a teacher and instead of calling right away you get on a computer and ask a bunch of strangers what to do. I am appauld. I hope that other teachers aren't so slow at getting help for a child. This child needs your help now, PLEASE CALL NOW.

Answer 8

First off, don't they teach teachers grammar, spelling and basic Language Arts skills? I find it very difficult to believe that you are a teacher. Secondly, if the parents don't care about the child, she's angry & can not concentrate in class, it is out of your hands. A "real" teacher has had classes in child psychology and knows that these types of situations need to be reported to child protective services ASAP.

Answer 9

I'm not one for getting social services involved, but I think this case warrents it. There is likely a good chance she is being sexually assaulted at home and the masterbation is just like a red flag...also the walking funny and that she actually hurts herself doing it. For the sake of the child you really must contact the child protective services on this one. Best wishes

Answer 10

Is she getting abused at home?

Generally hypersexuality may indicate sexual abuse situations.. it's not a matter of educating her out of it. Get her some psychological and social help. I have a background and clinical psych, and from the items you describe she could well be having physical conditions related to sexual penetration from an abuser.

Could be sore from penetration or has contracted some type of STD.

I might consider contacting the police with the schools approval, in the US we have reporting duties as clinicians, if we suspect abuse or neglect professional are obligated to report it to the police.

Answer 11

She might be getting molested. Children mimic what they see and what happens to them. If the school has a nurse have the nurse look at her or insist the parents have her checked by a Dr. Or report them! If you have a gut feeling something is going on you should act on it. It could be something major or minor but better safe than sorry!