Are you in your early twenties, a recent college grad who is disillusioned with the real world, deeply nostalgic for your childhood, adolescence, or college years, and feeling like you'll never get ahead in your career, like you're stuck, and can't figure out what to do with the rest of your life? How do you cope and does it get better as you head towards 30?
2006-07-06 09:35:45 · 13 answers · asked by frenchfri82 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Feeling your pain. I knew this was coming the minute I realized as a child that everything is pretty much crap. Seriously, the goal of our existence can't be get a good job, buy a house, pop out a kid or five, get a nice car, scrimp and save for a crummy retirement in Florida and then die. That sucks. If you think about it that makes life pretty pointless. What is left to show that you ever existed? Unless you do something great and get a page in the history books you are an invisible speck . . . so yeah . . . I guess I am in that same quarter life crisis. Don't want to work like a slave for some jerk . . . Don't want to be the self-assured, smug, boss/ jerk . . . can't bring myself to check out and go live on a beach . . . so what's left. Just take it and do what they tell you? I think not! That's not an answer though is it? I guess do what you love, do what makes you happy, create something . . . discover something . . . don't settle, live life to the fullest . . you only get one shot, well unless you believe in reincarnation. Be exceptional, not mediocre : )
2006-07-06 09:59:43 · answer #1 · answered by House 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'll hit that quarter of a century milestone in less than a month and I'm already well into the crisis part of it. I'm just coming out of a nasty divorce, in the middle of a career change and find myself longing for the good old days when I could build a fort out of the couch cushions and watch cartoons hiding from the rest of the world. It's not easy to look at my life and realize that I am nowhere near where I expected to be. As for coping with it... I just have to get up each day and tell myself that it HAS to get better.
2006-07-06 16:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by happy_fairy_gurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suck it up, consider that I have been given what 90% of the world will never have in the matter of education (not to mention shoes and a roof over my head) and get out there and make a difference. And lastly, if I find myself stuck in a career or job I don't like, have the guts to start anew. Life is short, and your quarter life crisis can rapidly become a mid-life or end of life one. You just never know, so why live like that? Take chances. Risk.
Don't mean to be unduly harsh, but come on....
2006-07-06 16:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by diasporas 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you get that (quarter life crisis) from that John Mayer song?
I feel that way alot. I'm 27. I am stuck in between wearing cute teen clothes or a nice business outfit. I'm ready for kids, but am I? I'm stuck in a dead end job.. that has great benefits and bosses, but it feels like it's just not what I really wanted to do.
I guess as I'm getting older I learn to cope with the fact that... hey, that's life. It's not exactly as you planned, but it's good. And age is beautiful. It's wisdom, lines in your hands and face, and experience. I'm old enough to know who I am and not have to worry about impressing people. I know what kind of people I like.
I know what kind of pet I like, car I like to drive. My music tastes are changing... I'm starting to understand some of the music my parents listened to, and not so much the music they play on that top 40 station. I guess the best part about growing up is being grown up... you're not a kid anymore, and you're long from being "old".
2006-07-06 16:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by ease_e_goin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're feeling exactly wat we all (most of us ) feel.......i too am in a fix deciding where this life is heading to but the solution that works for me is as follows:
Be happy u had a past worth remembring but live in the present, figure out what u want to be 10 yrs from now n work for it...if possible immere yourself in work with the occasional partying
Also most importantly Keep smiling coz God loves u every instant n that's more than any reason to be happy always.
2006-07-06 16:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by The One 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not anymore, as I am in my forties. But I tell ya, I was in mortal crisis when I turned 25. I guess it made me look at my own mortality. I just got really depressed, which took me by surprise! I had no problems turning 30 or 40. I loved being in my 30's.
Jeanette
2006-07-06 16:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Jeanette K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend a week in Ghana or Somalia or Bolivia or any number of a thousand places where people would die for cast-offs of your life.
That would make you feel 100 times better.
Spend a week with your church on a mission trip. It will change your whole perspective.
2006-07-06 16:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sir J 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutley... in fact, I feel like my whole life has been in crisis... hopefully by the time I hit midlife, I can get it all straightened out!
2006-07-06 16:40:05 · answer #8 · answered by MDPeterson42 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart you should try taking some zantex it works wonders simply makes you feel better about everything and more relaxed....perhaps giving you an edge and making you more a people person and easier to get along with......its the miracle drug
2006-07-06 16:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by nick t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since I haven't suffered my mid-life crisis yet, I'm gonna live to be an old fart.
2006-07-06 16:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋