Met her online 5 years ago. She was separated at the time and had her kids. Yeah, I know, red flags but I was lonely and fell for her. We met and things were great for 2 years then circumstances happened and she was forced to move back with him. She cant stand him and only moved back in because of the kids. It has been 3 years now back with him and she still is in the same situation. The only correspodence is via email now . Am I a fool for dragging this out with her?
2006-07-06 09:19:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know the truth, I think. If she really couldn't stand him, she wouldn't be with him now. People with kids divorce all the time. I hope you can move on.
2006-07-06 09:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by jenh42002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, yeah - she "Only moved back because of the kids." No, dude, she moved back 'cause she had her fling, her mid-life crisis (you) and now she's over you. Almost - she likes to vicariously re-live her fantasy moments and that's why she still corresponds via e-mail. Face it - you've done been used, boy! Be thankful that life gave ya such a sweet interval and MOVE THE H E L L ON! It's freakin' OVER!
Ya know, I hadda give my 30-year-old son the same daggone spiel, and when he finally agreed and broke off with his former ladyfriend, he began to come out of the worst funk I'd seen him in all his 30 years. And he isn't the only one I've counselled in like manner - 'cause that's my profession, too. Get over it, lad. Move on, and next time, if it's a married woman you fall for, make sure the marriage is in the past tense BEFORE you go and get horizontal with her. A lot less painful and a lot less dangerous - unless the sharp click of a revolver being ****** just as the moment of supreme ecstasy approaches thrills ya...
2006-07-06 16:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Had she not moved back in, I would have thought better of things. You don't mention what circumstances forced the return home, but generally there is some version of "option C". It doesn't sound like she considered all her options, or went with the convenient choice.
More to the point, she chose him over you. Three years' gone, it's time to move on.
2006-07-06 16:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh, you keep the ball in your court. See her when it's convenient FOR YOU. You will need to work on blocking out the emotion here. You are taking a backseat to the kids, as it should be. But if you get emotionally involved, you will go crazy. Talk with her, support her. Tell her you miss her ONLY if she says it first. Stuff like that. Be a friend first, then lover...and if it works out, she will be out and with you. If it doesn't, you didn't waste your time.
2006-07-06 16:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by jhornneon23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can encourage her to be with you, If you really love her, take her out of that negative situation and make a life for her and her kids. She may need financial support, that may be the reason why she went back. Let her know that you love her and she has your support.
2006-07-06 16:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by SHESHE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is never going to leave her husband for financial reasons and she is addicted to the attention that you give her, because you fulfill her emotional needs.
You will never be together unless she divorces and unless you are financilaly viable to take her of her and her kids and relocate.
Get real, it won't happen. Be practical and end things and find someone who is available.
Good luck
2006-07-06 16:40:28 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you two know the situation and limitations, I see no reason to end it.
2006-07-06 16:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by bay area curious george 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the other guy,.....You are wrong for what you supported her in ....You don't know the WHOLE Story and you should had left her butt alone a long time ago...she may only be in it for stability, but you can't ever Trust her Fully....So after you got her...Then What?
2006-07-06 16:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a fool. when her husband finds out you are a dead man! there is no price that can be paid to satisfy him
2006-07-06 18:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love makes us all fools and until you lose hope then you can't end it. hope is the one thing that gets us all through life and for many of us its all we have. once hope is lost then all is lost.
2006-07-06 16:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋