What advice to give a co-worker?

Question

she has been working on the job for 17 yrs and now she barely comes to work she is not ill or anything she just calls off all the time she told me that our superviser had a talk with her and she told her that she needs to straighten up her act or else but she still doesn't come to work the last time i seen her was on sunday and she told me that she really didnt want to be there i was told by other employees that she started doing drugs recently i wanted to talk to her but i just dont know what to say besides stay encouraged.

Answer 1

Does your place of employment have a Human Resources Department? If so, your friend may want to set up a session with a counselor/advisor there. She needs help. You are a good friend to notice this and care about her.

Some companies have mental health programs as a part of their health care programs. This often includes substance abuse. Counseling is a part of the rehabilitation process.

If you don't have this as a part of your health care, contact your local hospital. Often, there are drug programs for those without health care.

Your county may also have some programs, too. These programs are privately funded or funded in some through agencies like the United Way.

Look in your yellow pages under Drug and Alcohol Rehabilitation (or something like that).

I hope your friend gets the helps she needs.

Answer 2

Call her up, talk to her. Tell her you do care and that if she's in need of help you're there to offer support, If she wants help offer it in the form of an ear/shoulder to lean on, offer to take her to counselor, support group, or clinic if she's afraid to go alone. Offer to help write resume and look for new job if she's unhappy where she is working. Just be aware, if she's not willing to accept the help you can give then you need the strength to step away and let her go. That's the hardest part. I once had a friend who kept complaining to me about her working conditions and harrassment she was receiving at work, after a while of me repeating that she needed to go and report the people bothering her and that I would go with her if she needed me to I finally had to tell her that she had to either quit or go to the authorities because there was nothing else I could do for her until she got the help she needed. Right after that she reported the harrassment and her work environment improved. I'm not saying your friend is going to turn around as quickly as mine did, but just pointing out that there is only so far you can go before you have to say, ok I'm here if you're willing to get help but I'm not going to carry you until you decide to get it. I know it sounds kind of cold, but if your friend doesn't want help then there's not much else you can do but let her know you're there when she's ready.

Answer 3

Well, I would let her know that she has a friend in you, and if she wants to confide in you, she can.

But, (nicely) I'd let her know that if she really doesn't want to be there, then there are other opportunties for her out there, but not to give up until she finds one. Also, don't bring up the drug thing unless she mentions it. The reason I say this is because she might be upset if she finds out a rumor is going around about her (if it's not true) and either way, it's going to hurt. But, if she does bring it up, let her know there are other ways to make herself feel better. Anyway, just let her know overall that she has a friend. I think she needs that right now, to know she has a friend.

Answer 4

Meet your friend in person.Take her out for some outdoor activity like bowling or something.Show her that your care and it is fun to live and not be depressed!.

Answer 5

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