if they want to be with you they will the certificate is 40 bucks the wedding a freakin fortune what is the point. so everyone else can eat free and be cheap with their gifts?
2006-07-06 09:12:37 · 5 answers · asked by lilladyt34 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A marriage is much more than a ceremony and gifts. It's about a public announcement before God and your friends (supporters) that you are entering a serious and wonderful institution.
I would hope that everyone attending would take the people's vows seriously and do all the can to help the people uphold those vows.
I believe that the difference between marriage and just living together is the same as owning a house or renting a house. With home ownership, you are going to take care of it more carefully and you are a member of something bigger.
And with that certificate, you and your spouse and protected and protecting in a LOAD of different ways. If you tried to cover everything protected in a marriage legally, it would cost a LOT more than $40.
2006-07-06 09:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. True, that the commitment to another person can exist without a marriage certificate. However, a marriage certificate gives the two people named certain rights and protections under the law that are difficult to obtain otherwise.
I work as a paralegal. Often times, I get calls from people who have been involved with one another for years without marrying. They have bought property together, invested together, gotten in debt together. Then they break up and they want an attorney to sort out their debts and assets. Although they would probably still need an attorney to assist in a divorce, there are laws and guidelines in place for the division of assets and debts at the end of a marriage that are not in place for non-married couples. It can be difficult and extremely costly to work out.
Also, a married person has rights regarding medical decisions, inheriting of an estate, etc in their spouse's life that a non-married "significant other" does not have. Being unmarried can make for very difficult and painful situations in cases of tragic death, or accident. One case I worked on involved a couple that had been together a long time. They were in a motorcycle accident and the man was in a coma for a couple of weeks. The man’s family did not like the woman and would not allow her in the hospital room. Because she was not his wife, she did not have a legal right to be there and was prevented from seeing him until he woke up and was able to ask for her.
There is no law that says in order to get married you have to spend a fortune on a wedding. A civil ceremony taking 10 -15 min will work as well with little to no cost. The tradition of a wedding sprang up as a way to celebrate two lives, families, etc coming together to witness a public proclamation of two peoples commitment to one another. It has only been in recent history that a majority of weddings have become expensive and lavish events.
So the simple answer: there is more to a marriage then a piece of paper and a wedding is not a necessary part of a marriage.
The rights enjoyed by married couples is part of the reason gay couples would like the right to obtain a marriage certificate and marry legally.
2006-07-06 16:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Answer 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big deal,should be a commitment of love for two people to each other. The food, flowers, and people really aren't the big deal, they' re just there to share the joy of the event. Each couple decides what is important to them for that event in their lives. Some want a big bang of a wedding, others just go to city hall.
2006-07-06 16:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to fill the same way. But now that I am married ' just recently' last February. i can tell you that it makes ALL the difference. When you stand before God & all your family and friends, vowing to love, honor and respect, and to be faithful through sickness and health, for richer or poorer... Thats huge' theres no boyfriend - girlfriend bond that could even come close to the bond of a husband and wife.
2006-07-06 16:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by lvn_jb06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its more than a piece of paper. Its a formal ceremony in front of friends, family, witnesses and GOD that says that you will be with someone thru thick and thin, thru sickness and good health, good times and bad.
2006-07-06 16:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋