I am a femme lesbian and while it is difficult for other lesbians to spot me in a crowd for whatever reason when I'm out bi and curious girls are always trying to get me to have sex with them. I am offended because I am not some type experimental lesbian for them to test drive. If a man walked up to them and asked them to have sex they would slat him but I should be flattered, why?
2006-07-06 09:12:05 · 8 answers · asked by NY Lesbian 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For your information bisexuals are not "test driving" anything. Bi girls have meaningful realtionships with either a girl or a guy and their love is true whichever realtionship they are in. Don't sterotype a whole group of people because you were jaden by a bisexual once. There is a difference between bi-curious and bisexual, you should learn it. Try looking up past questions on the subject or go to the link to learn the bi myths. I'm so sick of some lesbian's sterotypeing bi girls.
2006-07-06 12:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Flattered that they find you attractive and approachable, yes. But they should approach you with the same decency that they'd expect of someone who would approach them.
Sometimes people who are just coming out forget that relationships and sex are about more than just finding another same-gender loving person. There needs to be some kind of attraction, affection, and I think, respect.
I'm betting you've had a hard time giving direct answers. If you said (but with a smile) something like, "Listen to yourself. We hardly know each other. Do you have sex with men that easily?" you would only have to say it to about 2 women, and word would get around that you're not THAT available.
If on the other hand, your reply is not direct, you haven't given the message that you engage in sex only with people with whom you've formed some kind of special bond, and feel a special attraction.
2006-07-06 09:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because there is something about you that attracts bi-girls. Are you easy to talk to and make people feel comfortable? Also some bi-women/girls are attracted to femme chicks because they are beautiful. Be flattered but careful. Don't take things too personal.
2006-07-06 09:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm bi and i dont love u...in away id be offended and maybe take it as a complement at the same time thinking " Thas right they want me" but then again ur not a toy.
2006-07-06 09:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for as what I have found out bi curious girls would go with anybody just to have sex, and often their boyfriends are somehow involved. as for bisexual girls I think there's nothing wrong with that....as long as its an all exclusive partnership. but I understand your point, of course.
2006-07-06 10:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd feel the same way, too. But then again, look at it from a positive point of view too. At least you know that you are NOT unattractive to women! LOL!!!
2006-07-06 09:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's because most bi- and bi-curious girl want some one who know's what there doing .... to them it's new and someone who can show or bring them more makes them want you more??? maybe ???
2006-07-06 09:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mousey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bisexual and I have to say I am sorry you are made to feel like a toy. I hate when that happens...... Oh yeah well that never happened to me ......damn you must look hott.
2006-07-06 09:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋