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My friend and her husband invited me and my husband to Mexico to hang out and have fun I have known her for 1yr and I think she is really cool .. I knew her husband liked sex cuzz that's all he ever wanted to talk about and somehow we all would end up at the adult store on the way home from going out .. ok thats cool whatever but we ended up going down to mexico and her husband asked my husband if he wanted to switch , he said we could all do it in the same room and it would just be for fun something different. my husband was like uhhmm .. NO so they were fine all the way back home and then that was it she stopped talking to me and her family stopped talking to us and there is just alot of tension .. I miss her alot and i have tried to talk to her but she blows it off . what should i do?

2006-07-06 08:57:02 · 11 answers · asked by Muy Buena 4 in Family & Relationships Friends

11 answers

She might be embarrassed at what happened. It is obviously not for everyone and she probably;y thought you two would go for it. If you can- talk to her and tell her that your friendship is still important to you even though you chose not to participate in the activity. If she does not want to continue the friendship then it's sad but you will need to move on. I hope she/they get over it.

2006-07-06 09:02:12 · answer #1 · answered by D baby 3 · 7 0

Maybe your friend, (the other wife), didn't know that her husband was going to ask your husband to swap. She could have gotten home and found out about the request, and felt uncomfortable. Also, there could be some jealously issues regarding her husband being attracted to you enough to want to have sex with you. It's just a thought, but you never mentioned how your friend felt about swapping. I hope that this helps you. Good Luck!

2006-07-06 09:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Ewww! Sorry, the whole swapping thing is just so '70's. Personally, I think she's mortified and doesn't know how to make it better. Doesn't know how to get the conversation off the ground. Give her a nice note that tells her you miss your friendship and you're hurt that she doesn't seem to want that friendship anymore. Give her a straw to grab and see if she grabs it. Hopefully, she'll come around. If not, she wasn't the type of friend you wanted to have in your life anyway.

2006-07-06 09:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by cathyribb 1 · 0 0

I am the female half of a swinging couple. I don't recommend you doing anything. She could be upset that her husband asked your husband. Maybe it was a pillow talk discussion never meaning to go farther than that, and her hubby took it farther. Wait it out she'll come around after getting past that uncomfortable phase.

2006-07-06 09:05:56 · answer #4 · answered by opentoanythang 1 · 0 0

Sounds like they were just your friends in order to have sex with you. I know that sounds weird because you tend to think of this only happening in the singles dating scene but it exists in the swinging scene as well. Unfortunately if they won't talk to you and can't accept and respect your choice not to swing with them then it is simply a matter of no longer being friends.

2006-07-06 09:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0 0

may be ur friend feels uncomfortable or embaressed cos u and ur husband rejected the request.. well i dont think there is nothing much u could do... other trhan trying to talk to her and convince her that u guys didnt take it that bad at all.. and would like to hang out and keep on the connections...
if she is not ready to go ahead just let it go... after all life is like that.... friends come and go....

2006-07-06 09:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

there are situations at the same time as an antidepressant would nicely be too solid, or the incorrect form and they could kick someone over right into a manic episode. attempt to refer to the fellow or their significant different and get this extra up with their prescribing well being care service or psychiatrist. it really is a serious difficulty that needs to be regarded at.

2016-11-06 00:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

sounds like your friend is judgemental, unforgiving, and doesnt care. If they dont wanna get the friendship back, run, they wernt a real friend anyways.

2006-07-07 08:54:00 · answer #8 · answered by red_samurai_dragon 3 · 0 0

Yuck, I'm glad she respected your comfort zone and boundary, but maybe it's time to kiss that friendship goodbye!

2006-07-06 09:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0 0

move on and be happy that the tension is between friends and not between you and your spouse for going through with it. I have watched it destroy one of my best friends marriage and it could easily destroy yours

2006-07-06 09:10:16 · answer #10 · answered by David007 2 · 0 0

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