okay i just asked a question about wether or not it is wrong to want to spend alot fo time with your boyfriend/partner alot of people said no however sometimes people need me time which I agree but at the same time if this person is at work all day they are away from you right? they should want to spend the evening with you and the weekends especially when you have kids involved, he is okay with me going out with my friend in fact he encourages it but whenever he wants to I get upset but I only do this because he has cheated on me once before last summer and now my trust for him is barely there I love him dearly and I did forgive him but I dont trust that if he does out with his friends that involve females that he won't cheat on me again with one of them, or that he won't come home. I just don't want a repeat, is that wrong of me?? HELP please i want to believe him when he says that he loves only me and wants to be with only me.. why can't i get my mind to believe it.
2006-07-06 08:53:32 · 4 answers · asked by cheryl m 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If someone has cheated once, they will do it again. I would leave him if I were you, Because if you let him get by with it the first time, then he knows he does not have to worry about it if he chooses to do it again. Plus if he really loved you, then he would never have cheated in the first place. Good luck with what ever decision you make. I hope the best for you.
2006-07-06 09:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by maxine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want a repeat then you shouldn't be with him. You cant watch him 24/7 so basically because he broke your trust you are the one that has to suffer. He cheated on you and now you have to deal with him going out with his friends. Its constant dumping on you and constant emotional stress for you. Why do you care what other people think ? If you think your partner should spend the nights with you then that is what you want. Just because others think its fine for your man to have a guys night out doesn't mean you have to. Find a guy who does things the way you like them done. At the very least dont settle for a guy who isn't giving you what you want and has cheated on you.
2006-07-06 16:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving means forgive and forget. you haven't forgotten. i don't blame you have you two talked about this? guys do lie, you need to do a little investigating if you're really worried. if you really love him and don't want the two of you to break-up, leave it alone. stop thinking about the fact that he cheated on you this one time, it's not worth the heartache if you are just gonna stay with him wether he is cheating or not. if he is you'll find out sooner or later, but don't push him away by being too posessive. when you go out don't tell him where you're going or who you're going with. turn the tables and make him wonder. if you know he's staying home one of these nights or weekends go out, it may suck cuz you want to spend time with him, but it'll make him think!!
2006-07-06 16:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM .HE WILL DO IT AGAIN
2006-07-06 16:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by russellmcmillen1947 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋