My best friend is haveing a relationship with a man that is known to a user. She is married he is not. her and I use to be the best of friends and now that this loser is in her life I feel like shes pushing me away. We have known each other for four years she has known him less than half that long. He is only out to get her money or that is if shes not already given it up.
It hurts my heart to see her fading away.
How can i get her to see he is not who she thinks he is?
2006-07-06 08:45:56 · 29 answers · asked by BETH M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should stay out of it. Your best friend will resent you if you try to interfere. Don't voice an opinion to her and keep what you want to say to yourself. Just be there for her when she needs you for support (once things go south with him, which by your description I see happening). That's all you can really do. You don't want to lose your friend over this guy. Trust me on this.
2006-07-06 08:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by kcsilverlining77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a best freind that was going through the same thing except he was really mean to her she was my freind from second grade we knew each other our hole lives. One day I was trying really hard to get her to see how sorry he really was (after so many attempts) and she got mad at me we got in a big argument and she left that was 1 year ago. The last I heard she moved to another state with him, I miss her every day and would do anything to take what I said back. I would stay out of her realationships and just be her freind tell her once how you feel but dont try too hard to make her leave him. Be there for her when she needs you and dont always talk about him unless she wonts to. Wouldnt you rather have your best friend?
2006-07-06 09:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Nish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that whatever happens you will always be there for her. You were her friend before him, and you will be after him. Losers come and go but you will always be there. Try calling her asking if she wants to go out sometime don't talk about him during that night just hint to her about you're friendship like "We should do this more often" Let her learn from her own mistake.
2006-07-06 08:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her tell her how u feel write her a poem or a letter or something like that. everytime my best fri3nd does something that i dont approve of. I tell her hecks yes she gets mad. But i rather let her know what i feel n find out from me that its not a good idea.. then her find out by someone else n get hurt even more. Th3n my best fri3nd always turns back n starts to realize dat i was rite n she was wrong n she thanks me for opening her ey3s. Its not easy but its worth a try.. Remember what blinds u da most in lif3 is LOV3!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 08:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, however you can be there to pick up the pieces when she falls. You will push her further away from you and into the arms of this looser if you try to down grade him in any way. Let nature take its course and see what happens, they eventually find out the truth.
2006-07-06 08:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to make her own decisions we can all try and help them turn away from the losers but ultimatly she has to learn it for her self
all you can do is be there when she does so that she doesnt have too far to fall just dont say i told you so thats not right
2006-07-06 08:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by scullicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her u don't want to see her get hurt and tell her how u truly feel and have a heart to heart with her. Let her know how much friendship means to u and tell her u will always be there for her, and u was there before him and u will be there after him
2006-07-06 08:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv been in some what of the same prob
with one of my friends as well
see she was going out with this one guy that all he wonted was to cheat.
i would subjust that u tell her how u feel about it
includeing that its just what u think and that u wonted her to know because u care about her and u dont wont her to get hurt
and then just say that if u ever need me
ill be their for u no matter what
:)k well good luck
2006-07-06 08:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by nobody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one person already said she will have to learn this lesson on her own. As far as u go in this situation i would be there for her when she needs u. And she will see that u are a true friend.
2006-07-06 08:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by swamplands33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart I know that it is hard to stand by and see your friend get used but the biggest mistake you can make is getting in the middle of her relationship stay bye her side when shes ready she will leave him alone
2006-07-06 08:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋