I am a very unsocial peson, How do I get out of a repuation of being shy?

Question

I am in High School

Answer 1

Turn off you're computer and go be with real live people!!!

Answer 2

Here's what you do. Forget about reputations. Forget about how you appear to others. Forget about high school being so akward. Speaking from experience, I want you to be as happy as you can while still maintaining good grades. If the people at school don't hold you very highly because you are viewed as "unsocial", that is a shame. They are most likely missing out on having a great friend like you! I know that there are times where you'd like to just blow something up to show people how cool you are or that you aren't shy. Heck, maybe there isn't anyone worth talking to. That doesn't make you "unsocial". That makes you "smart". Stay away from those losers and try to make the best of those years. Find out who you are. Read a lot of books. Take long walks. Watch ridiculous movies. Paint a picture. Be confident in who you are and who you want to become. Look towards your future with bright eyes and vivid dreams. Self-confidence is the anti-shy drug.

Answer 3

I was very anti-social myself. Picked up playing the sax and it became my life - lived and breathed it. Played at least 3 hrs a day in the school practice rooms - got pretty darned good! :)

Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with it. It's the way you are. Who cares about your reputation (while in High School) Other people's perception (while in hs) about your reputation will have no influence on you whatsoever. I know that's easy for me to say.. I'm not in high school. But really.. what will your reputation now in school mean to you in five more years?

You don't need to start knitting. You don't need to join some support group. You don't "need" a large group of friends. To be honest, I had no best friend even.. I just had a couple of buddies and that's about it.

Be who you are.

Shy girls are typically sweethearts.

I think it's a perfect reputation :)

Honest.

The only thing I personally would have changed.. was to ask myself at the end of the day.. do I regret anything because I acted shy or unsocial. If I had any regrets, then I just needed to figure out what that little regret was and try to reverse it. But I never had regrets. Usually my response was.. no I don't regret it.. those kids are idiots and I just don't want to be a part of it. I've always done better with older groups. Being stuck in school sucked because nobody was on my level.

Answer 4

I am also a very unsocial person. A very good and wise friend of mine told me that a person who is unsocial can learn to act like an extrovert. However, while you are in high school, being unsocial can actually save you a lot of grief. You won't be tempted to associate with losers, and you won't get burned. Try to be comfortable in your own skin. I am very comfortable with who I am. When the time comes, you will blossom. Don't worry about your reputation. It can also spare you a lot of grief. Find someone of your own gender at school whom you admire greatly, and try to strike up a conversation. The purpose of this is simply to have a good friend. Find something you really love to do, and get involved in a group that's doing it. These will help you learn how to interact with people. Most of the time growing up, I had one very good friend, and nobody else particularly liked me. Now I am glad I wasn't the social butterfly, because I never got hurt. I never got taken advantage of. Be discerning about who you spend time with. When you are older, and you need to be more social, you will undoubtedly rise to the occasion. Another thing you can do is tell yourself, "I am shy" Do that for several weeks. Then tell yourself, "I am shy but not as shy as I used to be." Do that for at least several weeks. I did that with one of my sons when he was a preschooler, and he became very extroverted and lots of fun. He also stayed out of trouble, and he's married and has a son. It might work for you. Good luck with this!

Answer 5

OMG! i am the same way, only im outrageously goofy and outgoing around my guy and girlfriends.

Wait for the right people, if you just positively cant walk up to someone, wait for them to come over and start a conversation with you. Those are the keepers.

Sitting in class, on the first day this coming year, ask someone new to be your partner. Because chances are, they're just as nervious on the first day. Starting right on the first day ensures that you will be on the same level as everyone else. Dont worry about what to say, just say what is on your mind and let them know the real you. Because they'll be able to tell if it is an act.Good Luck.!!

Answer 6

Do something crazy and show that you are ok with how you live.. but if you really want to change your being shy appearance, stand up for what you believe in. If you stay away from sex, drugs, and all of the other temptations in High School, you will show that you are about and beyond the rest. Just be yourself and stick to God.

Remember not to do drugs or get drunk or sleep with someone, b/c all that will do is bring you down even deeper and cause more troubles for you.. that wont help you any! And it wont get you the kind of attention you want.

Answer 7

I was like that in Junior High but in HS, I joined the volleyball team along with my outspoken/popular sister. It helped bring me out of my shell. I made friends and kept some very good friends in result.

Perhaps there is a group or activity that you are interested in? Do you like art? Join the art group or the yearbook staff? Anything with lots of people your age and you can talk to and be friends with? Or if you are sporty, join something and make new friends.

There's a difference to being shy and being quiet. I am quiet, not shy. But it takes some time to get me out of my shell. Once you realize people are not out to judge you, you will relax a lot more and will definitely make some very good friends. High school is the perfect place. Good luck!

Answer 8

Join a club, Smile, make I contact and say hi in the halls. Go to after school events like sports even if you do not play. Comment on peoples cloths, Tell them when you like something they are wearing. On Feild trips find a group you like and ask them if you can tag along.

You alreadty know the unhappyness of being shy, so take some risks the rewars are great.

Good luck

Answer 9

I had the very same prob. I know it's hard. People just use to know me as the shy girl, But I never was shy at home. I learned how to take the shyness away by acting like i did at home once and awhile. Or I would have a party with my friends or a girls sleepover and we would chat all night. You could try something like that. And, Now i'm known as the chatter box.Good Luck!

Answer 10

Start talking just start with saying hi to people you do not usually talk too. Then if someone seems nice try to start a discussion. Speak up in class and maybe start a few afterschool activities to make new friends that have some of the same intrests. Good Luck and remember to have fun and just be your self.

Answer 11

Make it a point to talk to everyone, even the people you dont like or people you dont think like you. Sometimes by being shy people think your stuck up, even though that is not the case. Smile and try to break out of that shell even if people laugh at you they will forget it soon. Dont let what people think bother you. You are only in Highschool for a short time make the most of it.