She dos'nt care to get a divorce
she dos;nt like my kids
she expects me to provide for her kids
her husband has not paid a dime in child support in 5 years
she wants me to travel with her and her kids and help pay for it
she perfers i spend no money on mine
she believes I should'nt travel with them onless close to home
i pay every bill we have she does not
however she can be good to me sometimes
for two years i have to say i love you first for her to say it
we have a good business together
my will leaves everything to her
hers gives everything to her kids and husband including the house that i've been paying for (5years)
if i leave it could ruin everything i've built and destory my bussiness
2006-07-06 08:41:39 · 14 answers · asked by Kelley M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My answer Hell Yes
2006-07-06 08:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by lil' mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelley, it sound like you have let yourself end up in a really bad position.
This relationship is bad news. You are more committed to your partner than she is to you. At some point, maybe things were real; but now it really seems like she is just taking advantage of you.
You have literally placed your entire life in her care (including your will). It will be hard to extricate yourself.
But I think you need to. If you don't, she will suck you dry, and meanwhile you'll be miserable. You can do much better than her.
Check out your business options. Talk to your clients and see if you can keep business if you two split. Check out your other career opportunities, so that you can make ends meet if you leave.
This isn't just about you, this is about your kids as well. She is taking your resources away from your own children, so they are being deprived of your time, attention, and money.
You need to start reviewing your options. Talk to a business lawyer. Talk to a counselor (church or otherwise), or trustworthy friends who will not tell her what you've talked about.
I really think you will regret staying, if you don't leave soon. And I think you know it, since you're bothering to ask for people's opinions here -- you know something is not right.
2006-07-06 08:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a definite no brainer to someone on the outside. GET OUT OF THERE!! Her not interested in divorcing her husband and expecting you to give up everything, including your children, for her is a big clue. I understand that leaving could jeopardize your business, but by staying is telling your children that money and sex is more important than they are and you will eventually loose your children for good. They will never understand as they get older. Right now, you have to choose. Money and sex with someone who obviously doesn't love you, or your kids. If I were you, I would choose your kids. The other you can always make more of.
2006-07-06 09:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by Juan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already ruined by remaining in this relationship. Your not only hurting yourself, but you are hurting your own kids just to be with someone who isn't willing to make you number one in her life or even put you in her top 10. Eventually this woman is going to ruin your business or take it from you anyway so why not make a planned escape and take what you can rather than loosing it all and not being prepared. Get some balls and stop letting her take advantage of you.
2006-07-06 08:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that the sex must be fabulous.
Read what you wrote. Would you want to be with someone like that?
You're not only "free" to pursue others... you owe it to your kids.
Although there is one thing I would encourage:
Before you pursue someone else, spend some time with yourself. See if you can figure out why you've put up with this behavior for so long.
And discover that you deserve much more.
2006-07-06 08:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down you already know the answer. Life is too short to sit back and do nothing. It's time to face reality as hard as it may be. Your being used. Communication is the key to any relationship but be your own person if you wish to be happy in life.
2006-07-06 08:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by Santa C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the fact that they're still married is enough, but with all those other things she sounds like a total loser. You should drop her anyway because you're not being treated fairly.
Also, There is absolutely NO excuse to not get divorced if she's in that situation.
2006-07-06 08:47:20 · answer #7 · answered by Hax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you need to get the hell out of this relationship and find someone worthy. Get out of this relationship before you pursue another though.
2006-07-06 08:45:36 · answer #8 · answered by hipchic_inhiding 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You''ve already destroyed your life. What's the big deal with destroying the business? I don't think you have the time to pursue others.
2006-07-06 08:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Dave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave her alone. She is obviously using you. Change your will before she tries to kill you for the money. Seriously.
2006-07-06 08:47:37 · answer #10 · answered by fashion_luvs_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you have a prenump, thenchange your will and get rid of her. my sis's b-friend is still married and won't get divorced. she's been with him for 7 years and she only stays with him because he makes her feel like she needs him
2006-07-06 08:49:48 · answer #11 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋