2006-07-06 08:35:08 · 12 answers · asked by bpg011 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I know how you feel.. When I was a teenager, I used to go at it with my mom. Very ignorant at the time, used to tell her every time we got into an argument,or when I did not get my way that I Hated Her. Well I grew up but the damage was done. She really thought I hated her. I have never stop loving her. I have live with this pain for over 14 years now, because no matter what I do to show her I love her, I really do not know if she knows I love her. I tell her constantly and do everything in my power to show her. But still it scares me what is she thinking about me. Two months ago she almost die all I could think was She never Knew how much I love her. It is my fault because I spend over 20 years convincing her I hated her. The last 14 telling her I love her, it was just late... I guess now I have to lay in the bed I made...
I wish I could tell you a secret formula, all I can say is never stop trying. Hopefully one day she will know..
2006-07-06 08:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, first things first..tell her you love her. I don't know the story behind your mother and yourself, but if you don't get along, then find ways to do things that you know will bring you and her closer.
Also, if you really want to resolve this, another issue is therapy together. Talk it out with someone that can help guide you through anything you need.
Take the time to appreciate her. Maybe you need to be the one to "make the first move" in the sense that you need to show her a little kindness in order to get kindness in return.
2006-07-06 08:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have many questions for you and for your Mom. Since there is no specific information available, I would suggest seeking Family counseling. Your Mom needs to be the responsible parent. You should not need to fix your Mom. She needs to step up to the plate and be a parent. If this is left untreated, it may result in many problems for you. Please, get some Family therapy. If your Mom refuses to go...get some counseling for yourself. Try very hard to see that your Mom's insecurities and problems do not reflect anything about you. Try very hard to not let this make you feel you are at fault. Please, Dear get some help. God Bless. You can search loacl yellow pages, get your family Doctor to refer you to Mental health Therapist or seek a Church. Many Ministers will offer free counseling.
2006-07-06 08:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, if you can't tell her, write her a note, show her in some small way. Some times we grown ups get caught up in the daily grind of work, paying bills, etc. and forget to slow down and pay attention to the things that really matter.
2006-07-06 08:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In each of the moments that you have the chance to choose between what you know will make her happy and what will cause a fight choose the one that makes her happy. Unless it is a self destructive choice in which case you're the child of a horrible person and I wouldn't bother.
2006-07-06 13:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Thunder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER THAT YOU LOVE HER. It sounds so simply, that it seems stupid, but that's the best way. Just walk in one day, look her straight in the eye and tell her that you love her and appreciate her for bringing you into this world and all that's she's done for you throughout your life.
2006-07-07 04:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by The Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter explaining how you feel. I'm sure she knows you love her, but having conflict makes you blind to the obvious sometimes.
2006-07-06 09:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by CaramelKidsMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her that you love her, make her feel special, go out of your way to make her happy. The rest is up to you.
2006-07-06 08:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Spaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know they say actions speak louder than words so show her
2006-07-06 08:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by chick on the move 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her a new car, clean the f ing house and stop picking your nose
2006-07-06 09:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋