What would you do????????????

Question

I'm going to have a baby this month and i still don't know whats going to happend between me and my boyfriend because of my parents. I'm 17 got pregnant and my boyfriend wants to take up to his responsabilities to me and his son, but my parents don't want me to be with him. What would you do? I have like 20 days to fix everything!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Number ONE: DO NOT STRESS OUT. As hard as it sounds, do not stress out, because the more stressed you are, the more stress it will put on your baby and the sooner he will come! Number two, congratulations at the prospect of being a new mommy. It will be the happiest day of your life. Three: Calmly, think of what is best for you and your child. What is your boyfriend going to do for you and your son? Does he have a job? Will the three of you have a SAFE place to live and will he be able to provide everything that a baby requires? What has he done so far to show you AND also importantly, your parents that he is willing to take this HUGE HUGE HUGE responsibility? I don't know what your relationship is like with your parents, but I was in a semi-similar situation as you, and although I never really "got along" with my parents, (what teenager does?) they were always there for me when I needed them to be and they were supportive of my choice to have a baby. Also, your parents and your boyfriend need to take a step back as well and think about what is best for you and your child. Compromise is in order. If your boyfriend cannot support you and your child financially, then you need to stay with your parents. But they need to realize that your boyfriend does want to take some level of initiative and need to allow him to see the baby and be over to be a part of his life until your boyfriend can support all of you. Congratulations again, and please feel free to Email me if you need anymore advice!

Answer 2

It is rare for a guy to stand up and take responsibility for his actions when its concerning a child, you are lucky to have a guy like this. Still, family is important, and right now your parents are upset and worried about you and your well being, even though you may not see it right now. There are two very important questions to think about to make the right decision:
1. Do you and your boyfriend make enough money to support you both and a baby?
2. When will you be 18? Because you may need to be emancipated from your parents.

You seem like a level headed person, I'm sure you will make the best decision for you and your child.

Answer 3

First of all, try not to let this overwhelm you. You do not have to have everything sorted out in 20 days. It will be ongoing after the baby is born, so try not to put yourself under the pressure to accomplish everything at once at the risk of your health.

Second, your folks may not want you with him, but they can't keep him from his baby. You guys should discuss all together. Maybe having your boyfriend's parents there would ensure that his and their rights are not overlooked.

And finally, ultimately the decision will be up to you and your boyfriend, but try not to alienate anyone right now because everyone will be needed to give your baby the family it deserves.

Congratulations on your impending parenthood!!!

Answer 4

If your boyfriend has a job and can support the baby and you until you can work then I think he should be able to take responsibility but if your still 17 you can't move out until your 18 but no matter what always do whats best for your lil man.

Answer 5

Have you sat down and asked your parents why they feel the way they do? Perhaps they have a good reason to want to keep you from your boyfriend. I have learned that even if it seems horrible at the time, parents seem to know alot more about what is right for you then you do. Trust me, it hurts to admit that but they do.

Also, do not put so much pressure on yourself, saying you have to fix everything in 20 days. You are still young, you have room for mistakes and you owe it to your parents to trust them.

Answer 6

Honey you are not going to fix anything in 20 days! You are about to be a mom and pretty much an adult. You are old enough (especially now that you have a child) to move out on your own. If your parents are getting in the way get out of there and let your bf be a man and the father that he should be! Good luck!!

Answer 7

I know of a girl I used to babysit for who was in a similar situation and about your age. Her parents didn't want her to have anything to do with the baby's father and so they forbid her to see him once they learned of the pregnancy. So during her pregnancy she didn't get to see him (or at least that is what her parents thought). But once the baby was born and he showed that he wanted to take a parental role in the baby's life and showed responsibility, her parents slowly allowed them to be together again. To make a long story short, they both play the role of parents in their babies lives. I am sure that if your boyfriend steps up, eventually your parents will accept him...
Keep a positive attitude & good luck!

Answer 8

wfirst of all...congratulations.....i think thatyou all need to sit and have a talk. he has every right to be in that childs life. ur 17 almost 18 ur an adult now and ur parents should not be telling you who u can be with. i had the same problem but i was not pregnant. but hey ya never know. parents do change there minds. i think after the baby is born they will just have to accept the fact that he will be there. you cant take a child away from there mom or dad......Good Luck Sweetie!!!!!

Answer 9

By getting pregnant you now have to make grown up decisions. You have to put your baby's well being first and if your boyfriend is employed and is able to take care of you and your baby you should go with him. You should both sit down with your parents and discuss your plans for the future. Make sure you are sounding realistic and not like a dreamy teenager who thinks everything is going to be perfect.

Answer 10

You and your bf need to talk to your parents. Unfortunately they are going to have to accept that he is in the picture, even though they may discourage you from keeping an extended, exclusive relationship with him. If you keep this child, regardless of whether your bf and you remain together long term (which is possible but not probable), you will be communicating with each other at least until this child is 18 (unless you bf decides he wants to leave). Technically, though, since you are not married, he has no responsibilities to you, only to his child.

I can totally sympathize with your parents. Keep in mind that they love you and are looking out for your best interests. They have more perspective than you do. They may never accept your bf, but it's important to realize that you all need to try to get along somewhat civilly for the sake of the baby.