I am married with 3 kids, he is married with 2 kids. We just have this crazy crazy attraction to each other. He is 7 years my senior. I believe his marriage is a good one. Mine is good for the most part. I have NEVER EVER even thought outside this marriage until I met this man. And it isn't really just his looks. Of course there was that initial eye contact, and you know there was that chemistry, it is just an unattainable attraction. It sucks really. Because I can't stop thinking about him. Argh!!
2006-07-06 08:28:32 · 24 answers · asked by ♥jessica♥♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
With someone else that is not my spouse. He is married as well. I just can't stop thinking about him. Maybe I am just addicted to obsession.
2006-07-06 08:31:25 · update #1
what was the question.....
2006-07-06 08:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a nice rich fantasy life is perfectly fine as long as it stays in the fantasy realm. You're coming dangerously close to the precipice where you're either going to go one way or the other. STOP!!!! What is going on in your life right now that could be triggering your escape reflex? Arguments with your husband? Lack of attention? Lots of stress at home? Any major changes? Sit down and do some soul searching. Do you want to throw away the life you have for what is probably just a flame burst reaction to this other man. Come on honey....you know the reality man is completely different from the fantasy man....reality man farts...fantasy man makes you feel like a goddess....until the next goddess comes along. Keep your fantasy life nice and rich...just don't let it encroach on and destroy your real life.
2006-07-06 08:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by cathyribb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age isn't even an issue. But you're both married and have kids. If you truly believe you're in love with him, you better be serious about it. Breaking up 2 marriages at once for anything less than love is wrong. Are you happy with your marriage? This could just be lust. How much time have you spent with this man?
2006-07-06 08:32:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How exciting! i think sometimes we can meet people who for some reason we don't know have an effect on us, I'm not sure if it's falling in love, but i do believe that everyone has a soul mate, even if you don't end up with them, but when you see them you connect straight away, you know that thing where you meet someone for the first time and feel as though you you know them for years, the only difference with you is you are attracted to this man, i think you should enjoy the excitement, but don't any further, trust me after awhile this feeling will wear off.
2006-07-06 08:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are talking about, but trust me your not in love with him its all about infatuation. I think everyone that is married or in a serious relationship experience this some time in their life, but it's not worth giving up your marriage to find out. Because you already have a man that adores you, and loves you
Think about the 3 children you have with your husband, and also think about what you saw in the man that you are married to now .What made you so drawn to him in the first place then try to spice up your love life, and rekindle that new found love that made you fall in love in the first place. It's there you just have to try and find it again. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 08:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Peaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what really sucks???????? Is the fact that you say you both have good marriages, but, yet your spouses are the ones who are basically potential victims of infidelity!! And where do your children come in?? Sad, really sad, what you have here is a case of lust, something new outside the matrimonial circle, eye contact, someone finds you attractive, besides your husband...etc...... dont confuse it with Love......
2006-07-06 08:37:06 · answer #6 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is possible to think you're attracted to someone else, but I want you to do this look into your husbands eyes and remember why you married him! That should be a good enough reason to stop thinking about this other guy!
2006-07-06 08:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by brisun89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH hun thats hard... i kinda am having the same problem. So heres what you need to do. you have kids and he has kids. Whats best for your kids? Your kids will probably get mad at you for takin their dad away. You need to get more attention from you husband so you dont think about this married man. Besides these kinda things dont work out in the end. If he will mess with another woman when he is married wat makes you think he wont do it with you???
2006-07-06 08:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by dee m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you could be or it could be just wanting you something you can't have. You really need to think about the consequences before you act on these feelings. You are both married and could be messing up a lot of lives including your own. Just think before you act
2006-07-06 08:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is a quality in that man that you re husband doesn´t have, Try to make the most out of that frustration and discover that quality, than you can simply try to form that quality into you husband and there you'll have the man of you're life!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 08:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by ochiflower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when do you two see eachother?? i really think you need to leave it alone. you have a crush and so does he, but you two are both married to different people. do you two want to ruin your marriages and make your kids disgusted with you. what if you broke up your marriages just for a few months together, and it doesn't work out? now you are completely alone, screw that, trust me fight your urges--turn your head to temptation! you will respect yourself and be so proud of yourself once your head is out of the clouds!!
2006-07-06 08:37:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋