Is there anything wrong with wanting to spend as much time as possible with your bf or husband etc?

Question

Is there anything wrong with wanting to spend most of your time with your partner do people really believe that they have to spend time away from one another sometimes in order to stay happy? Isn't love suppose to mean that you really love that person and that you want to spend time with them otherwise why be with them if you feel the need to be away from them? HELP me understand,

Answer 1

A relationship consists of two separate individuals relating to each other on many different levels. Without a separate identity and life, what will you actually bring to the relationship? By spending every single second of your day with this person, you become boring - merely a shadow of someone else. Plus, eventually you too, will get bored.

Answer 2

ok first of all there is nothing wrong with wanting to spend as much time as possible with the person you love but at the same time the people around you, such as your family and friends would also like to hang out with you, and enjoy spending time with you. An if they are the ones giving you a hard time then you should try to listen to them. Even though you may not want to leave your lover you should still find time for self and the others who care about and love you.

Answer 3

My husband says I'm the only person he wants to spend time with. He is my best friend. We have been married 4 and a half years now. Once a year he goes hunting, and he would like it if I went with him. But I think hunting is sooo boring, so I go visit my friends in New York. That is the only time we spend apart. Maybe you need to get a new boyfriend. It could be that he is just not the one.

Answer 4

You are both individuals with your own interests. While there's nothing wrong with spending time together, there is such a thing as too much togetherness. If you don't spend any time apart pursuing your own thing, you may get bored or get sick of each other and start to bicker. Keeping your own hobbies and friends and interests outside of each other makes you have more stuff to talk about and will make you appreciate the quality time you have even more.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with that at all that just pretty much means you really care about them. But remember He will need some space once and awhile. Sometimes the more you give him once in awhile the more he will want to spend time with you.

Answer 6

it really all depends on the 2 people involved in the relationship. if both individuals love being with one another and have no need to have their own time then great, nothing wrong with that. however, it has to be mutual. on the other hand, there is also nothing wrong with 2 people in a relationship who need "my time". it's natural and healthy. just because someone says they need some "me time" doesn't mean they don't love you or want to be with you. it's healthy to have time apart. you don't want to lose your individuality when in a relationship. it's not about the need to be away from the other person, it's just that it allows you to be with "yourself" for a while, soul search, internal resolution, self-improvement...etc., etc., etc. but it's not always about the other person. no need to take it personal unless the other person makes or states that it is do to you or your relationship (i.e. having relationship problems). being clingy or having a tantrom, arguement or something in that area everytime someone asks for "me time" will only put a damper on your relationship, especially when they state that it has nothing to do with you. the person asking for it will begin to feel smothered which can lead to unhappiness, stress, only to possibly lead to the end of a relationship (worst case sinario). so give this person their space when they need it. it's all about individualism.

Answer 7

Theres nothing wrong but it does have its limits, dont revolve your life around that person, you have to understand that you also have a life and that its ok to go out with friends without you bf or gf being there. The person who wants to be ALL the time with you...well...tend to be control freaks. Have your space, let your loved one miss you, its more romantic plus they will actually look for the occasion to see you and thats cool!! Make them wait a little, theres nothing wrong with that.

Answer 8

If you want to spend time with him go for it girl enjoy it, i spend as much time with my husband and we love each other allot when we where dating i wanted to be with him all the time and right now is the same after 2 years of marriage we love each other allot.

Answer 9

Yes and No! On the one hand if you are expressing healthy desire to spend time with and pay attention to him then he knows that you care for him and for your relationship. On the other hand wanting and doing should be evenly matched. What I mean is that the mainthing is for him to know that you want to do that, it does not mean you have to do it and doing too much would be smothering him and not letting him be himself and do his own things. Both men and women have to have their own things to do outside eachother. It keeps out the negative attachment issues and leaves both still feeling like individuals. Drown them in attention and not allow them to be who they are and you might find yourself single. Together and seperate...balancing the two is KEY!

Answer 10

i do not see anything wrong with that, i myself wish i can spend more time with my boyfriend but with our work and school we cannot see eachother as much as we want. i believe when two people are in love it doesnt matter how much they see eachother they will never get sick of eachother. they grow to love eachother more that way. i actually saw my boyfriend 3 times this week for 14 hours each day i still want to spend more time with him.