I love person alot.How to overcome commitment phobia?What should my partner do to make sure i dont get scared/commitment phobic as feel it from her unintentional actions/words.We both dont want marriage now still want to be together.
2006-07-06 08:21:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would think to myself i will set a time line if by then something hasnt worked out it probably wont happen for us ill move on the best part is ur partner might feel that way.so give it time meet ur partner from then take it.but dont stop meeting or things just becoz ur scared since ur partner deserves better being so understanding of ur situation.So i hope it works out if not i hope ur partner finds love,happiness,lifetime companionship.
2006-07-06 08:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to get married. People live very fulfilling lives together without being married. As for overcoming your phobia of commitment, there is nothing that your mate can do besides be supportive. Those are your demons, so to speak, and you are the only person that can change that phobia. You have to work that out. Maybe it would be a good idea for the two of you to separate until you both figure out what you want for yourselves. Not as a couple but as individuals. This all goes back to my theory that too many people get together and want this relationship and have to true sense of self and what they really want. That is tough but I think that time apart will help and you need to go back and handle your own personal issues.
2006-07-06 08:28:41 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow talk about a different topic, you shouldnt be leading ppl on just to read your problem..but now that im here.
If your having a commitment phobia the most important thing is that you both are always 100% open with each other and not afraid to express your worries when they come up. If you think you wont ever get over this phobia, you should prob end things now before it gets more difficult and more people are hurt
2006-07-06 08:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by summergirl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both don't want marriage now and still want to be together, I don't see what the problem is. I think you just need to take one day at a time, if you start to get scared or commitment phobic you need to talk to her. Be honest, let her know how you are feeling. She might be hurt at the time but when she has had time to think about it she will respect you for your honesty.
2006-07-06 08:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't get married and just stay dating. Try spending more time with each other like a married couple and see if that is what you really want to get into. Also you are never going to be 100% sure about marriage. Trust me I wasn't sure , part of me wanted to and part of me didn't but I did it and it was the best decision I have ever made.
2006-07-06 08:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by MAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 04:56:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start living together.see how you can handle that.what is soo scary about setteling down?dont you want to be with someone you love?we are not getting younger .oneday we will become old and crippled. then it would be nice to grow old with someone.confront your fears. what are you so afraid of? try to stay with her for a day. then try staying with her for a month. slowly try to commit to a relationship.lose your fears or you will lose her.
2006-07-06 08:35:35 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to worry about if neither one of you want marriage right now. you say you love this girl, well buddy, love is the strongest commitment there is so what are you thinking, you are already committed by love.
2006-07-06 08:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is no harm in loving 2gather. Who know 1 day u both might say. Letz get married.
2006-07-06 08:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by vineeth777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I don't really understand what you actually question is. If you want to be together, but not actually be together, then just be friends with benefits. I hope I understood what you were asking. If not sorry.
2006-07-06 08:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋