2006-07-06 08:10:58 · 52 answers · asked by cinderella overdrive 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait a sec...what I meant by "doing porn" was if he was entertaining his sexual fantasies with pornographic material. Not that he was an actual porn star behind my back! LOL. You guys make me laugh.
2006-07-06 09:20:47 · update #1
If he was actually IN porn I would divorce him, no question. I have had an experience with my husband viewing the stuff behind my back though and I almost left him for it but in the end I stayed and everything worked out. It's not the actual viewing of it that's troubling so much as it being hidden, it's secretive and to me it's like betrayal. I think (assuming it's viewing porn) that you should stay and try to work things out with him.
2006-07-06 08:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by dreamweaver_316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask myself a few questions. Do I really know this man? Is there something I am not doing that he needs to go outside of our relationship? If I find that he is not the man I thought he was then I would have to make a decision to walk away or else become a porn star.
2006-07-06 08:17:44 · answer #2 · answered by laurieclosing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching? Probably worth a talk. However, everyone has the right to some privacy and even fantasy, so long as it doesn't interfere with the marriage or relationship.
If he's actually acting in porn...I'm thinking a talk would just be the start!
2006-07-06 08:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by PermDude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would be decieved and hurt... obviously he was cheating on you. And even if it was "non sexual" in the sense of no emtional attachement, he still should have consulted with you. I say it is ultimately up to you.... why was he doing it? Lack of sex at home? Money? Hes just a w*hore? Which one? do you think he will stop? Where the hell is all that money? What was the money used for.
I would feel terrible forreall... cause I don't like to be cheated on. However, the answer to this question is ulitmatley up to you.. you do what you feel... and you make the decision that is best for you sweet heart!
Good Luck
2006-07-06 08:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's *watching* porn behind your back then I'll let you in on a little secret: He and every other man with Internet access or the means to buy a magazine does too. GET OVER IT. Now, if he's *IN* porn: I think you have bigger things to worry about if he's able to pull that off behind your back.
2006-07-06 08:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by gvel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing porn, as in being in it or helping make it? I'd be furious and he'd be gone.
You mean watching porn? I'd want to talk with him about why he didn't feel comfortable just telling me in the first place, and see if this was something we could share. But then if it became apparent that he was like an addict, or couldn't function without it, there'd be far more to discuss and actions to take.
2006-07-06 08:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray for the right words, confront him gently. Investigate whether it's an addiction, tell him how you feel. See http://www.newlife.com/3/workshops.asp for info on a workshop about this exact issue, which is HUGE among some men.
Get him to a counselor or to this workshop so he can get out of his porn habit. Unf., it's not just a "guy thing," it sometimes leads to even worse behaviors: affairs, prostitutes, etc.
2006-07-06 08:16:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I would totally freak out. Doing PORN?!!! What type of married man would do that? If my husband was doing that, I would have a child with him on purpose just so I could turn around and divorce him. Then, I would get 20% of his profits from his dirty little deed. Not only that, I would prove him to be unfit and he would never be able to see his child. That should teach him!
2006-07-06 08:16:30 · answer #8 · answered by pinkglitter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was DOING porn...I'd be showing him Divorce papers ASAP...but if he was watching porn and that kind of stuff then that isn't that bad! It depends on what you really think and feel about the whole situation...If you are not comfortable about him doing this then ask him to stop if he loves and respects you he will do what you ask!!!Good Luck
2006-07-06 08:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then I take it you would be moving to the San Fernando Valley.. Porn Capitol of the world. Im from there and say that with pride. Only cuz its a billion dolla biz
2006-07-06 08:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by drunknfaded 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋