He sits on the porch and spits baccy juice all over the place, he cussess any one who passess by, he strolls all over town with his flies undone and drools from the corner of his mouth a lot.
He tries to kiss passing women and gets drool all over them
he goes into the bars and ends up drunk and fights a lot!
I am his next of kin if I get him put away do I inherit the house ? he is only 89 years old, I know he has always looked after me but I could do with selling the house I need the money, is there a goverment scheme for getting old folk 'put down' free of charge?? I could get him to sign when he is drunk ? What should I do??
2006-07-06 08:09:14 · 16 answers · asked by budding author 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lol my grandad went mad too its not easy but it happens............. Put him in a home and hopefully he'll pass away soon.
Lets face old people know its the end when they end up in there.
2006-07-06 08:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by moomoo 2 · 10⤊ 8⤋
First, your grandpa is probably suffering from a form of dementia. You need to get him to a doctor to see if it is a form that is controllable through medication (such as thyroid).
Second, if he needs constant watching, and it sounds like he does, you can ask the police to pick him up and put him in the hospital for a psychiatric hold for up to three days, during which he will receive a complete evaluation. The hospital will have a social worker who will be able to assist you in getting your grandpa in the proper setting that is safe and healthy for him.
Third, Don't you dare sell his house until you have the legal right to do so. If you get him to sign something when he is drunk, you could end up being charged with Fraud, and lose any money you would gain due to coercion and undue influence. You need to get a ruling from your probate court that gives you the legal right to handle his financial affairs - in HIS best interest, not in yours.
Finally, there is no scheme or law anywhere in the world that allows Euthanasia of human beings. How you to even think such a thing?
2006-07-06 08:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by TLBFH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need him to go have a physical exam buy a medical doctor to check for different mental illnesses. As what you describe is a mental decease of some sort.
Check with your cities Human Social Services to see what your options can be. Find legal services to help you if you decide to have him committed for his own good.
This way you have looked out for his best interests and can show the authorities how you have tried to take care of him before you steal his house away from him so you can spend his hard earned money on yourself.
I know you are in a hard rock place in your life but looking for a government scheme to get old folks "put down" as you say is so heartless.
Remember in just a few years from now.. your grand kids will be asking the same question for you.... is that how you want to look at your life.
Get help from your Social Services.. that is the government scheme for getting old folks "put down".... like a dog...
I will pray for you Grandfather... I hope you can to.
2006-07-06 08:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a few things first. A bucket, a paper bag, a big long book and a mirror.
Place the mirror on the wall in front of you, sit on the bucket and put the book on the ground. Now poke two eye holes in the paper bag, look in the mirror, put the bag over your head (eyes to the front) and hang your head in shame.
The book is to give you something to read while you sit there considering what an absolute S.O.B you are. Wanting to get rid of somebody that's looked after you all your life, just cause you need the cash.
Ever considered getting off your butt and getting a job that doesn't involve returning soda bottles and aluminium cans?
* Shame shame, knows your name!
2006-07-06 08:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by just_jen2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it difficult to be very sympathetic - all you want is his money and his demise. As the next of kin - how about what he might want - have you asked him? Why not seek help from Social Services or go to C.A.B. Obviously his behaviour is distressing, but maybe he craves attention. It does sound as though he has a problem and he needs professional help - he will accept this better if he knows you are doing so because you care and not because you want his money! Just think maybe one day you'll end up like him - how would you want to be treated?
2006-07-06 08:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by dcfingringhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should get a hold of the welfare department in your area. How old are you??? The state could pay for his keep in a nursing home if you can prove he is unsafe or hurtful to himself or others. The state would sale the home to help pay for his keep. You would have no rights.
And they would not let him sign anything until they can see he is of sound mind. If not then the state or guarding is appointed.
I know my mother has dementia. And she is living in foster care right now. And he savings is paying for it now. Later the state will take over. But my sister will have guardingship very soon, so we can keep certain people a way from her that doesn't have her best interest at heart but hers.
2006-07-06 08:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be there one day! It's called dementia - it happens to older folks. Sounds like your more interested in his money then his life. Some of them when they get this have to be placed into nursing homes - but they will liquidate the homes to pay for the cost of it - very expensive!
I hope no one does that to you when you get to that age - cause most people find life precious and want to live as long as they can. Be a good grandchild and find some help for him and for yourself.
2006-07-06 08:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are shocking, i wouldn't dare treat my grandad like that, wanting to seel his house because YOU need the money, you are selfish, i'm sure there have been plenty of times when your grandad has been looking after you and struggled but he carried on because he loves you, now it is your turn to do the same for him not be a selfish little brat, Get a grip and grow up!!!
2006-07-06 21:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by sugarbabe180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be the first suspect in his murder case kid! He's getting old and needs help, not death. Grow up, take care of him and worry more about HIM than the money. You sound like a mean hearted, greedy person with this question. He'll die in his sleep someday and you'll miss him, no money can replace him!
2006-07-06 08:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by NewMom4-20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think firstly you should start treating your grandfather with respect......it looks like your only with him for monetary gain...cut that crap out.....if he's always looked after you maybe its time you do the same......anyways it sounds like you grandfater is having demntia which is common in old age......i would take him to a doctor if i was you and if you cant manage to look after him put him in a place where he can get good care....
2006-07-06 08:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I member when mine went crakko too, it was hilarious.....ohwww.....happy days.....
Hanging out with him will make you look all the better, younger, fresher, more sophisticated...let him make a fool of himself ....just enjoy yourselves
2006-07-06 08:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋