well, i'm south asian,(filipino, thai, cambodian, and singaporian). Right now i'm going out w/ this black guy. i really like him, but i didn't tell my mom cuz she would flip. and also when mi and my boy are out in public, ppl give us these wierd glances, it's sooooo annoying, i said to this white gurl,"wat the **** r u glaring at?". is it abnormal for a south asian gurl to go out w/ a black guy???
2006-07-06 08:00:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
i really wanna tell my mom about us, but my mom would flip the minute she sees him. i mean he is fine and everything, but he talks and dresses different from what my mom likes. So she will think he is going to rape me just cuz he is african. But we have a lot in common, not the greates things, but still...
2006-07-06 08:12:42 · update #1
yea, i kno a black guy w/ a south asian gurl isn't wat u see everyday i guess. But when i went back to NYC i saw asian gurls w/ black guys, i don't think they were south asian tho, but still...it's not like it doesn't exist.
2006-07-06 08:29:31 · update #2
It's Okay Dudette ^_^ i got 25% black blood and i went out with a South asain gurl...just dont worry about what people say...it's not like you're going to see them again or live with them right? :p
Just invite him to dinner with ur mom...tell him to come clean and tidy and act like him self...ur mom will know...lol i know cuz my moms asain too...lolz
o(¬_¬)o Maybe thats why ppl ddnt look at us strange...i'm Japanese......Lol Hope i helped...Good luck! o(^_-)o
2006-07-06 11:10:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ppl will always look, glance, sum even stare no matter who ur with. BUT it all depends on where u live. Some ppl are more open minded & some are not. If u live in a big city then it shouldn't be that big of a deal to them cuz ppl r always interacially dating BUT if u live in a suburb then they will stare. I don't think it's "abnormal" for u to be dating him. BUT keep in mind that there are a lot of "haters" out there that just don't have anything better to do with their time than judge others when they don't even know u or ur situation. If u & him get along then forget bout how u look in the publics eye, as long as u & him can get through stuff together (communication). As for ur family, only u can know how they would handle it. BUT keep this in mind, if u absolutely sure bout ur relationship with him & where it's headed then ur parents will be able to deal with it in time.
2006-07-06 08:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I see with that is the Cultural Differences. It would just bring a lot of complications into a relationship, on both sides. But, if that is not an issue, what is the big deal? WE are all human!
The color difference in someone's skin tone is only pigment, some are lighter some are darker! If he is a good guy and is good to you...your mom will probably understand!
Good luck!
2006-07-06 08:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by SCALISI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not abnormal. Once you love each other, who gives a fu*k what anyone else thinks. People these days are too preoccupied with what they see as normal, that when they see something different they don't know how to react, making the person who's receiving the attention or glares uncomfortable. Next time they are looking at you, give them the two fingers. You will be rude when you do it, but they are being rude staring and throwing weird glances at you and your man.
2006-07-06 08:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by Irish_bi_female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's weird cause it's not something you see all the time especially for a black boy to go out with a south asian girl. No hard feelings!!
2006-07-06 08:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by just want 2 kno 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with going out with people of different races. Older people of certain races might have a different view though. Many races are afraid of change, and they really just can't see the mixing of races because the person you are going out with has a whole different culture than you and there traditions and actions might seem odd to others. Over time, generations will realize that there is nothing wrong at all about dating other races. As long as your parents see that you are having fun with this person and he is treating you well, they will soon enough change and they will turn out to like him. You will just have to give them a little space and time to get use to it though. Everyone can change or get use to a change, and I guess it's your Parents time to see how the modern world of dating works.
2006-07-06 08:08:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not do it, but I do not mind if other people do. I have tried dating people from other cultures & it did not work. Mostly because I think it is important in a relationship like interests. If you do not share a common background, it is not likely you will have shared interests.
In the words of Oscar Wilde: "Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation, and conversation must have a common basis, and between two people of widely different culture the only common basis possible is the lowest level."
2006-07-06 08:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two people one day meet, they make a decision and choose to pursue a relationship it will crash and burn or thrive and flourish if they want it to be that way. Whether they can unite to find love in their future, and how they overcome obstacles along the way to happiness as a couple, will best define the relationship.
It is the young who dare to explore societal mores but it is the mature of heart and mind who most often take love and romance beyond mere exploration. Be mindful that what others have to say about one's relationship, your relationship, matters only to a fool.
2006-07-06 08:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by ralegas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are sheep and don't step away from the herd. I am a black woman engaged to a Vietnamese/Caucasian man. We have a beautiful baby girl and when we go out, we get stares too. But since we're such a gorgeous family, no one can say a damn thing.
2006-07-06 08:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have a really tough time going out with someone of your race: FiliThaiCamSing wow what a mixture. You date whomever you like, if the person you are dating treats you nice, respects you and you respect him than do what you want. The best thing to do when people stare is to ignore them, no reason to start a hassle because of their stupidity. Enjoy yourself, explore your passions and date whom you want, there is a whole world of interesting people out there and if you stick to what other people want you to do you will miss out on a lot. Good luck
2006-07-06 08:05:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋