right or wrong?

Question

i been dating my girl for a year and a half now, she is legally seperated but not divorced, we're supposed to move in together but the fact that she's still married bothers me a lot, i told her that i want her to get divorced and she says she aint spendin the money on the divorce, she says she doesnt feel she should she says if i pay for it then she will, isnt this a lil fishy???, her husband is living with another girl and has a baby, so i dont think she wants back with him but is it possible she still has feelings for him thats why she dont wanna divorce?? is it right for me to pay for it since i want her divorced?
if she agrees to divorce, would it be ok for me to help her with like half the money??
yes i have offered to pay for it n she says she will do it, but then there's that thing of why cant she do it? why do i have to pay for it, what if it doesnt work out and i already paid for her freedom and she goes on and marries some bastard later on

they have no kids , no property together, and also she wont pay for the divorce but yet they had a membership @ bally's for which she is gettin her check garnished and his name is all over that membership too, he a low life n i know he wont pay, but yet she wanna invest in some stupid buildin here in chicago, n im like WTF if her F***** ex finds out he gettin all the profit with her and my help n moral support goes where?? ......yea right there so wat is really goin on

Answer 1

RUN LIKE HELL. There are plenty of good choices out there and she isn't one of them. You'll be paying forever if you cling to this one.

Answer 2

She might feel like them living separate lives is good enough and less haste. How much is the divorce? Can she afford if on her budget? If you 2 want a life together you don't want the x to have any ties. I can't believe the other woman he is now with doesn't want them to divorce. No, Not fishy just a incomplete break. It's OK for you to help her out with it? She might be so bitter against him that she thinks if she waits long enough he will pay for it. Decide if you want to marry her. If you do then help her, if you don't then let it go. The fact is she is with you and not him. I know the being married bothers you but this is very different. They have no relationship. Has he threatened her if she would file? Is she scared for any reason? She needs a big kick in the butt. Then support and encouragement

Answer 3

DON'T PAY FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S F* UP!

If there are no legal ties (properties,children, etc) a divorce can cost her under $200! You can go to Office Depot and pick up a legal kit which will walk you through simple divorce filing!

I've never heard of another man paying for their girl's divorce.

The fact you're here questioning it just means that you're having some serious doubts. She needs to check out her baggage before starting something fresh with you...IMO.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I think that you are too worried about the minor details. I don't see anything wrong with you helping pay...but I wouldn't pay for the entire thing. After all it is her divorce. And she will always have feelings for him, they were married, but I don't believe that those feelings are romantic or anything. She did spend some of her life with him. If she was using you for her freedom I think she wouldn't still be with you after a year and a half. I mean if thats all she was with you for, don't you think she could go find some other man to con to pay for her divorce. I hope this helps and I hope it works out for you. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

Well somewhere in your paragraph you have it right you want her to divorce and so pay for it.....nahhhhh dont ask questions just pay for it and then see if she will do it...if she goes trough with it then it just meant she really didnt feel like she should pay for the divorce but if after you offer to pay for it and she still refuse then its obvious that she doesnt want to end her marriage.... just because her ex is with another woman doesnt mean your girlfriend had or should accept the end of the relationship maybe inside of her she just havent.. and you should find out. why.and your not paying for her freedom your paying for a divorce you can have a written statement that saids that if for some reason the relationship doesnt work out that you want your money back if you really want to get technical about it in america verbal agreements dont work.. but written agreements give you justice.. to me you guys are starting this relationship very rocky i think is easier if you just live appart for awile and just get to know each other a little better because from where im standing it doest look to promising.good luck.

Answer 6

OMG I'm in the same situation. My man wants a divorce. We already live together and we share each others money. Hopefully next month he will finally be SINGLE. He really wants to marry me and I'm happy with him for the most part. He has three kids and we just had one together. Him and his wife have been seperated for 2 yrs now and we are going to see a judge next month for him to grant it for us. She won't sign the final papers. Who knows why she's kinda nuts. She signed the divorce papers but won't sign the last final papers. I'm hoping the judge will grant it so we can marry this fall. So I can have another baby!!

Answer 7

sounds to me likeyou were the unfortunate holder of the title on the rebound, it really does soundlike shs used you to try make her ex jealous and that she doesnt really have true feelings for you, i definatly wouldnt pay for her divorce, if she really loves you she'd get one, shes also going to use your feelings for her to push things so you will be getting the ex off your back... i dont think, you should show any jealousy at all towards her ex..... its get to get you wound up to do things... you get me...it doesnt sound that she takes your relationship seriously, although you seem to, but id take a step back... and take a good look, then take a good look round outside and see what there is you can have as opposed to what you might not really have anyway...

Answer 8

I assume you are living in chicago? From what you have written my best advice to you is to move to state of washington or oregon without leaving a forwarding address. When you get there attend church and offer up prayers of thanksgiving for your salvation. If you are a hard worker I am sure you will have a good wife and family in your future.

Answer 9

Could it just be possible that she's bitter and vindictive? Perhaps she really doesn't want to pay for the divorce.. perhaps she just wants to make sure that he'll not be able to marry this woman her ex is living with.. maybe there's no reason.. who knows.

Answer 10

Wrong. I would reconsider whether she is worth that or not. It sure sounds funny to me. She's got the money to do what she wants, so I would take it, that she doesn't really want the divorce. Think twice before you jump into this situation. Good luck..

Answer 11

Dump her quick. She has some nerve expecting you to pay for her divorce. Hell you aren't married to her and you don't owe her one cent for this divorce. Sorry, but she's not worth 2 cents.