2006-07-06 07:50:06 · 31 answers · asked by me-me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That baby is not going to be born for another 8 months. Continue in your schooling, talk to your family, when the time comes to have the baby, take the semester off, then continue the next semester. Most women drop out of college when something like this happens and their professional future goes down the drain. Don't be one of those. You can do it.
2006-07-06 07:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by lil_gabby_2003 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! I had the same dilemma (kinda). I found out I was pregnant when I was 19. I wasn't in school but I was working as a temp (with no benefits) and I was freaking out. My fiance let me know it was going to be okay and about 4 months later I found a good job with benefits and my mom is taking care of my baby now. Do what your heart tells you! There are alot of options - abortion, adoption, keeping the baby. You have to do what you think is right... don't let anyone else try to persuade you!
It's easy for me to say "you better have the baby and stick it out! it's your own d*** fault!" But you'll probably hear that from your parents. I've had an adoption before and I had a baby last year, so just do what you feel is right for your situation.
If you're serious about your education, then you might consider abortion. You're only a month so you can take the new pill.
If you don't want to do that, have your baby adopted by a couple who can't have babies.
Or you can just have the baby, take some time off from school and then go back when you can afford daycare.
Email me if you want someone to talk to!
2006-07-06 15:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, have I been there!!! I got pregnant in February of my Freshman year. Luckily, my boyfriend was great about it. He was a senior in college. We both finished the term, and he graduated, thank God. Then he was able to get a job to support our new family. We now have three lovely children, and I was able to finish school. By the way, I got pregnant with my second child when I went back to school. And I realized that I could be a good Mom and go to school at the same time. As long as you have a good support group, like your family, or the father, a good babysitter, or friends, but I also want you to know that my friends slowly disappeared because I was less exciting with the pregnancy and baby. So expect to look for new friends that share motherhood experiences with you. It is not the end of the world. You can do it!!! And if you decide that this is just not possible for you and your circumstances, then look to the possibility of adoption. There are plenty women out there trying so hard to become Mommies. Everyone's story is different. Make yours what you will be proud of.
2006-07-06 14:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by AmandaHugandKiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me-Me,
Continue your schooling. Don 't stop until you are finished. You are gonna need your degree to get ahead and take care of you and your baby. You are not the first woman to become pregnant and won't be the last. You can do it! I'm a single momma that got pregnant at 19 too. My son is now 13 and I wish I had finished school so that I can support him better than I am now. I have only 1 1/2 semesters to finish college. You can do it!! Just try not to drop out if you can.
2006-07-06 14:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by gzmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit. Keep going to school. It will be easier while pregnant than after the baby is born! It'll be tough at time, but you'll be glad you did. I have a 4 year old and a 3 year old and am a full time college student. It is getting a little easier now that my kids are getting bigger, but it was tough when I first had them. But, I got through it, with my husbands and in laws and mom's help! You can still get an education with children. Thousands of women do it! Good luck and stick with it!
2006-07-06 15:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Health and family come before education. However, you should continue school as long as you are feeling well and the doctor says it is okay for you and the baby. I have observed young first time moms attending school to within three days of the birth of the baby. I recommend that you take off at least two weeks before the baby is due to rest and prepare for the delivery. After you have decided on a plan for child care, you can always return to school. Many colleges offer parent-friendly programs on campus. Best wishes.
2006-07-06 15:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of people go to school, especially college, with a kid. I know lots of people that do it. Have the baby and stay in school. It seems as though your baby is due in May (my counting may be off, if so forgive me) so you can go to school all next year, don't attend in the summer and be ready to attend again the following fall(if my calculations are correct that is). If you don't have anyone to look after your child while you are at school or cant afford childcare there are government programs to assist students. It may be more difficult but now you have even more of a reason to excell in school. Best of luck to you and congratulations, babies are a blessing even when they're unexpected.
2006-07-06 15:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comunication is the key, you can do both. In this day and age you can have your cake and eat it too. Talk with your family, friends, academic advisor, counselor, etc. Tell them what you wish to do. Your family and friends will probably help you with childcare while you are in class. Your school will help you continue with your schooling by giving you several options. The school may even have daycare on site, mine did, to help parents continue with their education and also as part of the school's program for early childcare education. Another option would be to look at online schooling. I am doing that right now and I have three kids, one in school, two age two and below. I like the online schooling because it saves me on daycare expenses, I can concentrate on my schooling in betweeen nap times. Look at all of your options before you make a final decision, you can do both, be a mom and continue with your schooling.
2006-07-06 15:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by masmalan2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the first person to end up pregnant while going too school. I would suggest you find a planned parenthood counsler nearby and start there for advise . next if you want to keep the baby whene you have you have her/him than go and find out where you can get the kind of good help you need to help out on rent and food.
2006-07-06 14:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by trektek2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
duhhh! i bet you had unprotected sex with no condom, and cant figure out why you got pregnant!! too right?
it is too late to think about all that now. concentrate on your pregnancy now. once you have had your baby, go back to school and finish. if you have babysitter issues, there is alot of courses online. mabey that will be an option.
i hope you still have this motivation after you have your baby. most moms get lazy and trapped in a grocery store job for the rest of their life.
good luck, and i hope you have a healthy beautiful baby
2006-07-06 14:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by lc_firefighter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋