(thank you, Nietzsche)
2006-07-06 07:48:43 · 27 answers · asked by Mr. Sky 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I could agree but first there must be a consensus on the meaning of friendship between the 2 parties involved.Otherwise we could be talking bananas and coconuts.
2006-07-10 01:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rastaquouère 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages
2013-09-26 03:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 points to Nietzsche!
If you are not friends with your spouse, then it will make for a very unhappy existance. The vows state, "Till death do us part." That's a very long time to spend with someone that you're not friends with. Love will come and go depending on how much you annoy each other, but friendship and love together will last forever!
2006-07-06 07:52:45 · answer #3 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes sense because communication and other vital components in the marriage do not get worked on. And those vital components have more to do with friendship than love. This was a very good question! Right on the money!
2006-07-06 07:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear so much talk of how necessary it is to be "friends" as well as lovers. Well, of course. One would hardly lover another if you didn't get along and became good friends. But I must say there is a huge difference between this kind of friendship, which involves a sexual relationship, and the other kind of friendship, which is usually longer lasting.
True friendship with another human being outlasts most love relationships. We confide more, entrust often much more, rely on more, than we would our partners.
Why is that? Is it because the two are not really compatible after all? Love including friendship requires a great deal of trust. Often when we care for someone exclusively, we find it hard to really open up to them. We think we do, but often that is not the case.
So while I agree with the above statement, we are talking about different kinds of friendship here, I believe.
2006-07-06 16:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this quote very true. Love is a powerful force, however love alone cannot save or keep a marriage going. Friends have similar interests, goals, and values. In order for a relationship, especially a marriage, to work both people must be friends. True friendship involves unconditional love, which can withstand the toughest of times. If you have a best friend, you understand that you and that friend have had many disagreements but you never thought of quitting the friendship. That determination and selfless, unconditional love that true friends share is the kind of love that must be present in a marriage for it to be beneficial for both the husband and wife.
2006-07-06 07:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire the sentiment of this quote, however I think it incorrectly confuses "love" with "romance". Love is a very broad word that encompasses many different kinds of relationships, including friendship, familial ties, romance, and altruism. So basically, I would agree with the satement if it replaced the word "love" with the word "romance", because a lack of love certainly would make an unhappy marriage!
2006-07-06 07:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by aeterna15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so true. This is my second marriage and have been married for 16 yrs and I must say if my husband and I were not friends then I do not think it would work. Being open with each other and communicating makes us love each other more.
2006-07-06 07:52:44 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet a Nietzsche quote. He's very quote able. I believe love is to liberally defined. I love someone therefore I've entitled myself to treat them worse then any other. An exchange of basic civility is exchanged in friendship and often not in marriage. The logic is hard to explain, one treats a friend better then a lover. When romance often equated with love dims, the substance of friendship remains.
more Nietzsche quotes....
A casual stroll through the lunatic asylum shows that faith does not prove anything.
A great value of antiquity lies in the fact that its writings are the only ones that modern men still read with exactness.
A letter is an unannounced visit, the postman the agent of rude surprises. One ought to reserve an hour a week for receiving letters and afterwards take a bath.
A pair of powerful spectacles has sometimes sufficed to cure a person in love.
After coming into contact with a religious man I always feel I must wash my hands.
Ah, women. They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent. <<< Personal Favorite
2006-07-07 03:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love with adjustment and respect for ur spouse's space is important 4 happy marriage life
2006-07-06 07:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by seeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its definitly lack of friendship.
u got to love your wife/husband.
and find a way to make time to be friends to.
go out have fun.
talk to him/her like your interested in what they say not what they do.
anyways thats just me im 22 i have 2 baby girls and a loving girlfriend.
2006-07-06 07:56:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋