Do you believe in Polyamory and why?

Answer 1

"Believe in?" As in, does it exist? I think it's obvious that it exists in some form or another.

If you mean that other use of "believe in" that means "practice or follow," I suppose that's a yes. I never did understand jealousy, or why loving one person prevents you from loving someone else. There are time management problems, but those arise in any relationship. But I would no more want to have only one romantic partner forever than I would want to have only one friend forever.

Some forms of polyamory get called "friends with benefits" because of this parallel... some people (me included) have no idea what other people think that love and sex are so drastically different from all other aspects of a relationship that they change the very nature of interpersonal connections. They're more intense, certainly... but some of us like a lot of intensity in our lives.

I feel sorry for the ones who are so terrified of losing their partner that they can't tolerate them having any emotional connections to anyone else. I also feel sorry for the ones who have such tight schedules they've got no time or energy for any other connections than their primary partner; I tend to think they work too much.

I don't mind monamory... as long as it's spontaneous.

Answer 2

My wife and I do not see life-long monogamy as an appropriate ideal for us. There is no biological or spiritual imperative to commit to monogamy for life. But we DO value the basic sense of security and connection that comes with a commitment to life-long relationship – the idea of sharing our lives together, growing old together – love, honor, and cherish in sickness and in health till death do us part. We’ve been married for 4 years, and we seem to grow more deeply in love every day. Non-monogamy works extremely well for us. Neither of us would want a traditional marriage. We would like to find one or two others to share in a poly family.