I always want it and willing to work for it, but he doesn't have the stamina to keep up.
2006-07-06 07:45:38 · 15 answers · asked by jrovira121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have asked the big question of the ages. Each individual is made up differently chemically. You have a big sex drive and somewhere you have been addicted to sex. This is not bad in that case. Many people are addicted to sex and have to have sex most of the time over and over. Be it man or woman, people have different sex drives. You two have a problem but it is not unmanagable.
Let me say this... You are normal. He is normal.
Communication of your sexual desire is needed between both of you. You may have to curtail some and he will have to add some more sexual activities to his time.
In the mans case they are ok with just one ejaculation but women may need more. Once climax happens for a man most men (not all) will need time to recover for the next round.
In womens case (not all women) they can have multi orgasms one after another.
If a man climaxes before the woman is ready to climax, (which is the norm if he is not a skilled lover) then the woman is unsatified and has to manually stimulate herself to climax or just forget it. (not a good solution) A better solution is to have the man help manually stimulate the woman to climax when ever this happens.
That is why your man is satisfied and you are not. The trick here is to help each other find how to satisfy each other to mutual benefit. Communication is the first step. Men need to be instructed in a good positive manner to be good lovers. Women need to be good communicators.
If this is not a good solution then looking for a more highly sexed drivable male partner is in the cards for you. Sexual equality is a very important part of a great relationship in love and even in marriage.
Good luck.
2006-07-06 08:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from. I have the same problem. I have talked to my guy about it and well we added another man in to the mix to help me be satisfied. I don't know if that is the way you want to go. He just seems to have a low stamina you just help him out. Try being on top of him. For extended periods of time. maybe that is a better answer for you. I did that first before we added another man. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-06 14:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem w/ my man he calls me a nmypo and i don't deny it. His reason is sometimes he's so tired which he is because he has 2 jobs and really tries to satisfy me, So most of the time i'am understanding, so if yours have the same reason try to be alittle bit understanding or do what i do most of the time and just take it whenever possible. U should really ask him y he can't keep up and i hope it's a good reason. My man also told me we are external and are ready to go at all times which is true, But for men they have to keep getting stimulated to rise over and over again to meet our needs, So i guess for them it could get a little tiresome
2006-07-06 15:36:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People vary wildly in their sex drives. It sounds like yours is higher than his. Some possible solutions:
1) If you man loves you, even once he's worn out he should be happy to uses his fingerts, tongue, and/or a sex toys on you to make you happy as often as you want.
2) You can always use your own fingers and/or sex toys, either in his arms or by yourself
3) Failing that, find another giuy with a higher sex drive (instead or, if you can figure out how to make it work, as well)
2006-07-06 14:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Roger D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what is the problem? It sounds to me like YOU are the one with the problem. Don't you EVER have an orgasm? Usually, when a person has satisfying sex (with an orgasm), they don't have to keep doing it and doing it. Honey, it is not the boyfriend with the problem. It is YOU.
2006-07-06 14:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We men alas are only capable of so much..this is why my partner gets to play with other women. I would reccommend a girlfriend or perhaps a 3some with 2 men.
2006-07-06 14:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or your only just attractive enough to keep his interest for moments at a time. Chances are he's already bored with you.
2006-07-06 14:48:55 · answer #7 · answered by yogabbagabba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-06 14:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by s v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on top. He will last longer that way. If u still want it later he will still have energy left to go another round.
2006-07-06 14:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by artpoz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your libido is hyperactive, jrovira, and you're wearing him out. A guy can only do it so many times. He probably thinks you're the best thing that's ever happened to him, but you have to let him get his rest.
2006-07-06 14:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Flame 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋