Could you turn your life around?

Question

Have you ever done that?

When? How?

Any good stories?

Would you?

What for?

Why or why not?


What are your dreams and what would you do to live them?

How's your life now? What do you see in your future?



Thank you for sharing your life with me!:)

I wish all who answer all the best!:)

Answer 1

Well, I am trying :)
I was in a relationship for six years (from the age of 20 to 26) and I did my best, in a very selfish way, to keep it going. Only in the end did I realise that I was trying to sort of ride a dead horse. And I was so afraid that letting go would mean I had wasted 6 years of total 26 of life, that I nearly committed suicide.
I spent 2 years thinking & talking it all over and over again, and at some point I thought there would be no getting out of that vicious circle, and I was exhausted. And I was miserable.
Only now, 2 years after the end of the affair :), do I realise that I have to thank my ex-boyfriend for basically kicking me out. And I have thanked him. And I feel so much better now, trying to build my whole life up again, starting afresh, making new friendships, living on my own, being away, doing different things. And I do feel lonely at times, and I do sometimes just wish I could go back but I am also slowing getting over that morbid prospect.

And I am a bit reluctant to go into another relationship but I know I love being in one, so all I have to do is remember my lesson.

Not exactly the most striking of stories but it definitely struck me as one!!!

Answer 2

Seeing as how I'm still a teen, I haven't really had a huge chance to "turn my life around" . I guess I more or less got cut off at the pass by my mom. I was in with the wrong crowd, you could say, and one not got so trashed I wandered out into the street and took off. Don't know how she did it, but my mom found me and we had a huge fight, but she straightened me out. I never did anything like that again, I even found new friends that didn't party.
Well any how, now things are great. I have a job, a car, a wonderful boyfriend, a steady church, and -get this- morals and values that I uphold! wow! I plan to finish high school an honors student and then I'm goin to a college hopefully on the equestrian team and go to school to get a degree in horse training, or if that doesn't work out prob. medical something... Dreams and plans are two different things right? Well my dream is to be on the U.S. Equestrian team and maybe even ride in the Olympics or something, but thats just a dream. Well, I hope for my future happiness, maybe marriage and kids, definitely horses, I'll go where ever God leads me I guess!

Answer 3

Yes, anyone could turn their life around with the proper stimulus. Even the seemingly coldest heart can be thawed. As for me, though I haven't had any great revelation on what is good or bad, I have also learned something. I was once afraid of death, and told my mom, "Mom, you and I will live forever, right?" I was young then. My mom, who was half asleep, just mumbled, "Yeah, sure honey." I was so relieved. The very idea of death terrified me. I was what some called intelligent, and I loved using my mind thinking up new ideas everyday. But if I died, what good would my brain be? I would be gray and lifeless, my memories gone with my soul. I didn't believe in an after life.
As I grew older, I slowly figured that there was no escaping death, no matter what my mom said. So I pushed the though away. Now, I'm trying my hardest to live life to the fullest, and to savor every precious moment of happiness and love. So while death is looming just around the corner, I just smile, knowing that everything's going to be all right.

Answer 4

When I was 20, I was married with a baby and we lived in a little apartment. He was a piece of shyt and didn't work. I held down a job and paid all the bills, until I found out he was unfaithful and kicked him out. I was so upset and depressed about it, I lost my job, and I started going through this rut where I didn't look for a job, I just stayed at home every day with my baby and got lazy, gained weight, and just watched TV all day. To make a long story short, I lost my apartment, lost my car, the only thing I had was my baby. We went from place to place for a while, and the stress of not having a home was affecting my baby, so I asked his dad to take him for a couple of weeks until I could find a job.
Anyway, it got so bad that I ended up staying in a ratty hotel, without my baby, my parents wouldn't let me go back home, and I was on the verge of going to a homeless shelter. (I'm so embarrassed)
But in my hotel, feeling so alone without anyone, realized that I was ******* up my life, and I needed to get serious. I said a prayer, a rather long one, and the very next day I found a job, and it just so happened that the company I was going to work for was a rental leasing company, they got me an apartment that day!! One week later I got my son back, and everything fell into place there.
Now, I'm re-married, I have three children, we have two new cars, a house, and I have a wonderful job. I've lost 50 lbs, I haven't had to worry about paying my rent or making my car payment since then. Today I know the meaning of hard work, and will never allow myself to become such a bum again.
I feel so blessed to see myself where I am now. Even now I pass by old buss stops that I used to sit and wait for the buses to come, and I look at myself now and my car, I am tickled pink that I've come this far, I've gotten my GED, and I plan to start going to college soon. (part time, once a week classes) Now that I have been through all this, I can teach my children the value of life and teach them the value of hard work.

Answer 5

Yes I have done it, and believe I could do it again.

I was unfortunate in my youth; my family dissolved and I was unable to finish school simply because I had to survive. I did not have an extended family that would help me, and many people in this circumstance become dead enders.

I have gone on to a happy adulthood, full of accomplishment and happy incidents; and despite being given a poor example of family, I have been able to form a healthy and happy family.

My future is of course unknown to me, but I intend to keep going forward, loving those around me and thankful for my own resilience and endurance.

Answer 6

Perhaps, but my memory would need to be erased out I would require a lobotomy to enter into a blissful state of ignorance. Sadly, now I know things that seem to compel me and give me a sense of ownership over a load of esoterica that I could have left well enough alone... but others were pursuing the same ends and I simply could not leave this field of inquiry alone. Oh, I tried... many times, but with every news event, I got pulled back into the research... treading "where angels dare not?" I (et.al.) decided to map out the human intellect using an approach refereed to as "auto-epistemological" using a methodology that incorporated the perusal of "HRDs" or Human Reconnoitering Dialogues. From these and other techniques - projective & otherwise - we gleaned, or came to isolate, cognitive "archetypes" - nebulous concepts (having great "semantic carriage")- that actually would form the architectural foundations by which meta-cognition was "enabled" this was seen as the "working hierachiel intellect potentials" (or WHIPS)... but I digress.
Ostensibly, this tech. represents the "forth wave" that will either spell out human success or failure... the species' defining moment(s). We are bound for a series of catastrophe curves... the populace of this earth is aware of most of them... about some however, such as this one, they remain largely in the dark... and I can find liitle rest or peace of mind until they have been given fair notice. If my group were the only group to have been researching this area, the question would be moot, 'cause I could confidently control the speed of this technology's imminent arrival on the scene. It holds both promise and peril... its applications can become both "Promethean" and "Pandorian" and what we do every day until its advent counts. I know this sounds rather shrill, but we are not alarmists. In fact, thus far we are trying to conduct our "outreach" in a way that does not cause a sense of knee-jerk reactionism to float to the "lunatic fringe" elements in this nation. Time will tell. The trouble is with human complacency and that "anticipatory behaviors" are largely just so much "lip-service." Perhaps they think there will be Divine Intervention... it's not out of the realm of possibility if you believe in God. But with that, we then would ask some rhetorical questions... Remember the nuclear proliferation during the "cold war?" Did God intervene then? Perhaps, but those who lived though the Cuban missile crisis would have mixed opinions. I believe we are still a mightly arrogant species - "smart but not wise," as a Native American chief put it. I also think that in that arrogance, God often gives us enough rope to hang ourselves... Again, to quote an old adage from my Native American brethren, 'Each animal has enough brains to tan its own hide." I see this quote as "emblematic" of the present human condition & predicament.
Anyway that is my story... and I would be remiss if I did not seize upon every opportunity to draw attention to our "outreach;" so PLEASE, pass the word to visit our blog: www.collectiveintellect.blogspot.com

I would also ask for your prayers... for my peace of mind and our success in bringing this message to enough souls, that some grassroots concenses can eventually be achieved. Thank you.

Answer 7

Turning one's life around can be difficult mainly because of all the habitual ways of thinking and acting that keep us down. However, it is not impossible.

Think long and hard about what you really want for your life. Then make a realistic plan to achieve what you want. Your plan should consist of small steps that you can easily accomplish. Then all you have to do is take a step. Then another. Then another. Eventually, you will achieve the life you want.

Answer 8

My life changed a little over a year ago when I finally got away from an abusive relatioship. I am now with someone who loves me for who I am. When I think back, I can't believe that used to be my life.

Answer 9

Yes

Yes I have, several times.

I don't recall the exact dates.

By changing aspects of myself, my thoughts, my perceptions etc.

MANY of them!

Turn my life around again? If needed, yes!

For myself.

To learn, to fit in, to be a positive force in some manner more so than before.

The dreams are endless.... as much as possible without detriment to others.

Not as good as it could be, but FAR better than it has been!

Both positives and negatives.

You're welcome.

Thank you, the same to you!

Answer 10

I hope not. It's going too good. Turning it around would make it go bad.