I'm going into high school this Sept. and I am so sick of never having guys like me. If they do they never say so or make it obvious. I've never had a boyfriend and overall I think and I've heard that I'm pretty, smart, and nice (sorry for sounding conceited). But even so, unless guys start stepping up to the plate and asking girls out, I'm out of luck. Or maybe it has something to do with me... but lets not get into that. Can anyone empathize?
2006-07-06 07:33:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
GUYS: from the responses i would like to make a public announcement. Screw the feminist movement. just letting you know, we want YOU to ask US out. And unless you ask her in a really inappropriate way, she's not going to report you for harassment. And if she's the type of girl to do that, she sucks.
2006-07-06 08:20:01 · update #1
It sucks to get shut down, and it usually takes alot more guts to ask out the prettier ones, because of a bigger chance of getting shut down.
2006-07-06 07:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Southpaw 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can thank women for that! Ever since women's lib, back in the 60's, and even before then, women have been screaming for equal this and equal that, and yelling that every little thing was sexual harrassment. NO WONDER MEN HAVE BECOME TOO SCARED TO BE THE AGGRESSOR. Women want to be men, so men have decided to just kick back and let them, and now, a lot of women are complaining because men won't open doors for them or offer them their seats, or ask them out. Well, I am a woman, but I blame women for this change in the male population. If I were a man, I would ask women out, but only after getting to know them, and making sure they won't bite my head off if I asked them out. Can't blame the boys for this. Yet, there are a few (God bless them! They are the greatest) who will still do the asking.
2006-07-06 08:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that many guys think that if they ask you out, then they are sexually harassing you, or something like that.
Not to put down the femmist movement, but there is a lot of literature out there that suggests that if a guy is assertive and asks a girl out, then he is some type of evil oppressor of women (or a potential stalker). Most guys are afraid to ask women out, because they don't know how you will react. Will you say "no" politely? Will you scream and make a scene (I've seen this happen)? Will you try to make trouble for the guy by reporting him to the authorities (teacher/principal) if you think that he is ugly?
Many guys have the impression, from watching the crazy people on Opra & Jerry Springfield, that women are afraid of men who are assertive, and that women will try to make trouble if he "hits" on you by asking you out.
If you want someone to talk to you, it helps if you have a smile on your face; you look friendly and approachable if you do. it also helps if you are sociable, and that you speak to most people that you pass, if only to say "hi", since it makes you look friendly and positive. No one wants to speak to someone who looks unhappy, unfriendly, who doesn't make eye contact, and who sits with her arms folded likes she wants to be left alone.
Also, guys watch how you treat (and/or reject) other guys; if you have a habit of saying "no" to the people that you do not like in a polite & kind way, people are more likely to take the risk of asking you out -- since being polite makes you look mature and emotionally stable. If you have a habit of rejecting guys in a mean, rude, or angry way, or if you get hysterical whenever a guy that you do not like asks you out, then the other guys watching you will assume that you are too immature to have a relationship with since you seem to lack patience with people.
Don't be too desperate or overly excited around some cute guy that you just met either; irronically, being too eager to meet someone that you don't really know yet makes you look too clingy and dependent. Acting too friendly, or trying too hard to be nice, can also scare people away.
You just started High School. Don't be in such a hurry to find a boyfriend; you have the rest of your life for that. Just be patient and meet new friends and see what happens.
2006-07-06 08:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fully agree with Randy G and Icame's responses. In addition, I think that the paradigm shifts in the dating scene today (as with most other things in modern society) are becoming too rapid, complicated and vacillating. The end result is that both sexes are becoming more confused than ever before. Don't feel as if this is all your fault. A lot of it has to do with the absurd "values" of modern society. It goes both ways for males and females.
2006-07-06 08:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by isajohn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I can empathize..so you know it gets worse when you are out of school..Someone told me men are more aggressive in the South...Maybe I should move there.....
2006-07-06 07:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by AT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you want to go out with me lol guys do but they have to much on there mind or I did and then I ask a girl out
2006-07-06 07:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately many white dudes have no balls. Thats why so many girls get down with the swirl.
2006-07-06 07:37:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋