didnt have sex cause iam a virgin and i feels as though Iam not ready and he keeps askign me when r we going to have sex and i tell him i dont know do you think he is haveing sex with somebody else.
2006-07-06 07:20:25 · 6 answers · asked by Babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dang, Babygirl, have you got issues! No, I don't mean about wanting to keep your virginity. I mean about that boy pressuring you and you doubting his fidelity towards you. If I were in your shoes, I'd dump anyone that would try to coerce me into doing anything I don't want to do.
The question to ask yourself is not whether or not you should give in to him or whether or not he's being true to you...Babygirl, ask yourself: 'IS IT LOVE OR LUST?'
Now, I've got a real nice lawn in my backyard: beautiful and green. Yet, I've got to really analyze it, check it, make sure it doesn't get weeds. Some of those weeds are so smart; they are almost identical to grass blades and if you don't get rid of them, they'll destroy your beautiful grass lawn.
By that analogy, you could see that love and lust are almost identical and hard to differentiate but the one will respect you and seek what is good for YOU in the eyes of God; the other will only give you stress, be controlling only for the other person's wants and needs. A person like that is like a weed...you need to get rid of it before it destroys you in one way or another.
2006-07-06 09:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by alicejohngib 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
baby boys will come and go. and most of the time at that age (not always) they will try to persuade you to do it. If you are not ready then don't. If he loves you back he won't keep pressuring you to have sex. don't just give your virginity to anyone. I lost mine at 15 and i wish everyday i had waited til i got married because my heart has been broken many times by boys that said that they loved me and left when i slept with them. i know better now because i am an adult and alot comes along with sex. so i would advise you to think more about it. never do it to make him stay cause it won't work. Please consider what i said and always listen to your elders. they know what they are talking about. Good luck hon
2006-07-06 14:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by i have a taste for waffles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready to have sex, don't do it. If he can't wait for you tell him to leave. Do not let him pressure you into something you are not ready for. There is a possibality that he just wants to be able to brag that he had a virgin. Be sure before you say yes.
2006-07-06 14:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by older woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't give enough information for use to decide. He might be, he might not be. Some guys really are respectful enough to wait, some aren't. No way for us to know. Kudos to you for respecting yourself, though. Good luck.
2006-07-06 14:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep dis boy you don go spreading ur legs for him cause that be de end of you boyffriend
2006-07-06 14:24:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves and respects you than he will wait.the best way to solve your problem is talk to your boyfriend about how you are feeling
2006-07-06 14:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by starrygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋