What are your thoughts on Open Marriages?

Question

I was just thinking why even get married?

Answer 1

well marriage is a commtment to love and be with one person, so those who believe in open marriages should just not get married or commit to someone in the first place... if you wanna sleep with everyone u happen to come accross then commitment aint for you le alone marriage

Answer 2

My wife and I have been married for 17 years. We got married because we loved each other, and wanted to promise to be with each other for the rest of our lives.

An open marriage has to do with a lot more than sex. An open marriage is one in which neither partner owns the other, in which both partners are truly free and responsible people. It's also a marriage in which there can be total honesty in communication -- even about fantasies and desires which would normally have to be denied or swept under the rug. You can see that the ability to discuss such things freely requires a very high level of maturity and trust. I don't have any married friends whose marriages show the same level of honesty, intimacy, openness, and -- quite frankly -- hotness that my marriage does, after 17 years!

The idea that monogamy=sexual exclusivity comes from the days when sex usually resulted in children. That's no longer the case, and just as I don't grudge my wife the right to have intimate friendships, I don't grudge her the right to have sexual friendships. She's committed to me, and isn't going anywhere; why shouldn't she have some fun if she wants to? Who does it hurt, exactly? An open marriage is the best of both worlds. We have deep love and commitment, and we also have freedom and fun. And let me tell you, it's hot!

Does it fly in the face of conventional ideas? Sure. But why should we care? This is something that we're doing for ourselves. It does have positive consequences for others, in that I think we're generally more open, vivacious people than we would be otherwise, so we're more fun to be around.

Answer 3

If you are going to have an "open marriage" then why get married just become partners and be swingers. This way if at some point one of you don't agree with the lifestyle you can just pack your things and go no lawyers, courts, nobody has to be in your business more than you need to. To get married and have an "open" marriage is like what everyone else is saying, it's not "open" . That like having a car with no engine, why have it if you can't drive it. it's no damn good to you. Just my opinion

Answer 4

People don't always get married because of love.
In fact there are friends that get into Pacts saying if by a certain point in their life if neither of them aren't married that they would marry each other.
Then of course there are people who get married because the female gets pregnant and the guy thinks marriage is the right thing to do.
And of course people fall out of love and they want to maintain their personal assests, or just their rep.

But I don't think that two people who are genuinely in love with each other will do the open marriage thing.
Personally I am not into such things, but I am ol' skool, so I might be the minority.

Answer 5

What is the point of a marriage if it is going to be open? Do not get married in the first place. Marriage is about commitment to one person for the rest of your life and you want that to be open...NOT POSSIBLE. Such a marriage does not make any sense. Stay away from marriage, if you're looking for an open relationship.

Answer 6

In a perfect world marriage would be a sacred union to remain unbroken until the end of time. Unfortunately we do not live in a perfect world. How many divorces are performed annually in the USA alone because of infidelity? I am sure the percent would be rather high. I think its within human nature to want love more than one person. Now whether or not one can actually accomplish loving more than one person successfully remains doubtful in my eyes. I sincerely believe the issue of open marriages is actually a issue of honesty. Being completely honest with your partner about everything! Your desires, passions, fears, secrets that you have buried deep within yourself, and basically all of your emotions. If more marriages could incorporate honesty and open communication into there lives I believe they would be better off.

Answer 7

Open marriage is NOT a marriage. A marriage is a committment for faithfulness, monogomy, loyalty, oneness, and that this will be the person who you have a family with. It is a union established by GOD. A union cannot consist of openness in the sexual or intimate sense. These people who want or have OPEN marriages, think they are being "in", but really, they are simply saying that they cannot be faithful.

Answer 8

Open marrigaes like swingers or like more than one spouce?

Im assuming you mean open like swingers, right? *lol*

I think they are cool, I am bi-sexual, so if I ever get married to my boo, our relationship would be open to a slight level. We would have different females sharing our bed like we do now.

Its cool because you are allowed the opportunity to explore sexual adventures with someone you are in love with. They are like your safety net, there are rules in each couple and it usually works out to the best as long as the rules are followed.

Why get married? Because now you have a permandent play partner in adult games. Most open marriage activities require you to have a partner and if you have found someone you love that shares your lifestyle, why not make the emotional connection of marriage with them?

Swingers dont think of what they do as cheating, UNLESS a rule has been broken (for example: my bf and I could do a 3some, I dont consider that cheating on meh, however, if he was to start or do something without meh, then it is? see the line?).

NOW... if you are talking about Open as in more than one partner, thats cool too... *nods* Having mutiple wives works out great because there is usually always one 'mom' figure at home and then there is more income and family time. The husband has to be able to take care of each wife and each family as an idividual, while treating them no better or worse than the rest of the extended family. It is a great situation, however, unfortunatlly in today's society and insecurities and jealousy, it is probablly not such a good idea.

Hope something up there was helpful!

:o)

Answer 9

I agree-why even get married? Open Marriages are an excuse for partners to cheat on each other.

Answer 10

If your not going to be honest with one person and only have one person at a time in your life then its a waste of time and money to even get married. You get married so you can be with that one person not anybody and everybody. If your spouse loves you they shouldn't need a open marriage they should be happy with whom they are with till death do they part.