Why do people become gay if u r gay answer?

Answer 1

People don't "become" gay, it's how God made them. However, people take different amounts of time to realize and accept their gayness - some never do. So people "come out" at different stages in their life. Perhaps that seems like people are "becoming" gay, but it's just them becoming more comfortable with how they always were.

Answer 2

Its not that people "become" gay. Most people would tell you that they are born gay.
The thing is, we live in a world where it is expected and assumed from religous and social quarters that we are all straight, or should be.
The idea that people become gay is a misconception. Its just that that we take a while to inform others that they are in fact gay creates the impression we get to a certain age and they "turn gay".
If we lived in a more understanding and less homophobic society where people were able to express their sexuality (preference) from a younger age the whole process of "coming out" would cease to exist.
Untill that day some gay men and women will continue to feel pressured to live life appearing to be heterosexual till it all is too hard to maintain and then inform everyone that theyre gay ! thus giving the impression they became gay.
I hope that helps.

Answer 3

Very few people can choose their sexual orientation, or as you say, become gay.

The overwhelming majority of people are born with a predisposition one way or the other. Science is just now starting to see this.

What you may be perceiving as "becoming gay" is the natural process of coming out, first to oneself, then to others. It takes time for a person who has been raised as straight to overcome the societal programming and familial expectations, and assert his/her true nature.

For example, a very brief personal story;

I grew up in a very religious household, the last of 6 kids. As I grew up, I saw all my older siblings dating people of the opposite sex, so I (unconsciously) figured that's just what people do.

So, I tried for years to do that, and I was miserable, even with very nice guys. I didn't feel at all like my older sisters who would talk about how great it was to be dating this or that guy.

Then in college, away from my family's influence for the first time, I met a girl, and, well, I learned who I am, and why I was so unhappy dating guys. I was much happier, and I have never looked back.

So I ask you: based on my story, was this the moment I chose to become gay, or was this me realizing for the first time that I had always been gay?

Feel free to interpret it the way you like... but I know the truth.

Answer 4

I know that being gay is not a choice, I am 40 years old and I know that when I was young and I mean like 12 years old that I thought there was something wrong with me just because I thought that men were sexy and I had a crush on some of my dads friends. It was much harder back then as it was never ever talked about. It was also considered a deviant act and you had to see a psyciatrist to see if you could be fixed. Well thankyou Canada for finally coming around. It is so nice to be normal.

Answer 5

Dose your mommy know your using the computer? Or perhaps your just stupid…..Hmmmm? Which is it? God, it sickens me that idiots like you post the same stupid questions everyday, every time worded a little different with worse grammar, but always the same question essentially. I don’t know about the rest of the world, but I did not choose to be gay. I did not “become” gay, because it wasn’t a choice. I swear, your ignorance offends me as much as my being gay offends some people.

Answer 6

I was always gay - I recall in first grade thinking Johnny Crider was cute. I tried to be straight so I would fit into society - I made myself and my wife miserable - then I came out and since then I have been very happy. I realize it is hard to understand if youare not gay - but seriously this is the way I was born. I did not choose to become gay - I just am gay.

Answer 7

latest theory relates to hormone exposure in utero. I became gay in my mom's belly. best bet is I give credit to my older brother's effect on mom's system, so thanks bro.
been gay ever since. Mom suspected I was gay when i was 6.
I teach a martial arts class to kids, and we've got 2 boys, 11 and 12 who are both pretty certainly gay. There is no choice involved, no "becoming gay" any more than one "becomes straight."
Much more like "becoming aware" of the target gender. Straight boys suddenly like girls, before that they're just "girls." Well, I suddenly liked boys.

Answer 8

Yeah, you just kinda are. If there was a way to turn straight, there was a time when I would've done that. But it's not something you can change, so I just accepted it. So yeah, people don't become gay--they just are.

Answer 9

don't understand exactly what you're asking. Some people are born gay, others discover they are later in life. And then they're others that claim they are, but are in just because it "cool" to be now a days... which is just plain wrong.

Answer 10

Why do people become straight? if you are straight answer?

God made me bisexual and I am happy that I was able to understand that maybe one day you will understand that God made you straight and you will be able to accept your sexuality too.