I had a miscarriage a couple of days ago. The father is out of town and didn't know I was pregnant. His mother (who is my best friend) knows but doesn't know it was his.
I know what some people may be thinking, but my friend is older and her son is my age.(Just to clarify)
I think he has a right to know but should I tell him?
Also does anyone know any type of online memorial for babies lost? I think that may help my grieving period.
2006-07-06 07:00:18 · 10 answers · asked by real_sweetheart_76 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He isn't my bf or anything, but he is a very caring man and I really think he would want to know.
2006-07-06 07:12:16 · update #1
I'm sorry for your loss, too. It is a difficult kind of loss, because many people do not understand that you lost a child and that your grief is for losing the child. If you are in a relationship with the father then you should not only tell him, but ask him for help in getting through the grieving process. My personal suggestion is that more than an online memorial you need to memorialize the baby together with the father, and I hope that he has the maturity to help you through . Let him decide whether to tell his mother, and she might be able to help the both of you as well. You haven't mentioned your own parents so I don't know if they would be supportive or not. But you need the support of real people at this time.
2006-07-06 07:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make the decision yourself.
What I would do, I would tell him that I was pregnant and that you lost the baby. Of course I'd say he was the father too. He does have the right to know (you'd want to know if you were in his shoes wouldn't you - but it also depends on what he's like, he may care, he may not, you will kind of know) So yeah, I think you should tell him.
All the best and I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-07-06 07:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by montanasamra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage, and then a toddler not lengthy after, then yet another miscarriage. thinking i become advised i'd not in any respect get pregnant, I seen that one a blessing. 2 years later i bypass pregnant back, and we had fun and idea we would not in any respect get pregnant back. Then #3 become born 18 months after #2...WOW! Then #4 become 15 months after #3, then 18 months later #5....we began questioning it become some style of cosmic comic tale! #6 become born 2 years after #5, and style seven (we call her seven of seven) become born 2 years after #6. My SIL also confronted countless miscarriages, 4 or 5 i imagine, she stopped telling us after a lengthy time period. She were given pregnant about ten years in the past although, and then popped out 5 in ten years. So we are both truly delighted with our little reward. i'm sorry on your loss, i do not understand what else to allow you to already know except to save your hopes up. I not in any respect idea i'd be so blessed, and that i keep in mind at present of dread, each and each month of praying. We were complete nuts for the time of our pregnancies, fantastically on account that all of our miscarriages were after 12 weeks...a procedures into the trimester of 'protection'.
2016-10-14 04:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss
I think you should tell him, then the both of you can grieve over the baby!!!
I know of a website for losing a child, don't know it off hand, but do a search and you'll be able to find it!!!!
Again sorry and good luck!!!!
2006-07-06 07:06:59 · answer #4 · answered by CityG82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The message boards at Babyzone.com has a board just for child or pregnancy loss. The people there are very supportive and helpful. Here is a link to the board:
http://babyzone.com/Features/Community/Topics.asp?brd=38
I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-07-06 07:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he would want to know then you should tell him. If you know he was the father then you should tell him. Also, if she truly is your best friend. Perhpas you should be honest with her and tell her that you are having sex with her son. Good Luck and sorry for your loss.
2006-07-06 07:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should tell him or atleast some one that is a lot of pain for one to take on by themselves.It helps a lot when the partner is by your side.
2006-07-06 07:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Mee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u shouls tell him because if he find out u was pregant it go hurt him for not tellin him and then he go be evenin hurter if u tell him u lost his baby and then if its his first baby i fell sorry for him
2006-07-06 07:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by Miami305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you luck in everything...I'm sorry for your loss
2006-07-06 07:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by southern babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry for your loss, did he know you were pregnant? if so then tell him what happened.
2006-07-06 07:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Coast2CoastChat.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋