He knows how I feel about it and stops temporary. But he feels offended if I chat whit other guys on internet. I tell him that what I do i’ts not much worse than his interest in some other girl’s boobs. Am I wrong?????? Does anyone have similar problems?????
2006-07-06 06:52:31 · 6 answers · asked by tinker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is normal to be offended. It is a feeling like he isn't satisfied, and has to go elsewhere. Also, it is almost like he is being unfaithful too. Especially if he's on the internet, where things can get out of hand and develop a life of their own.
You didn't say if you are newlyweds. But, rational thought sometimes goes out the window where marriage is involved. Especially in new marriages. You don't know what to expect. And others telling you that you are being foolish, over something that truly bothers you, are bigger fools.
That said, why are you talking to other guys? That is inviting a problem into your relationship. You only put it out there if you not happy. Isn't that what you think about his porn? Guess what he thinks about your chatting.
Get the computer out of your house and start using your porn time and computer time to build your relationship.
2006-07-06 07:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you both need to stop. You should be have converstaions with you husband not a stranger. When you talk to other men it may make your husband feel like he's not good enough or that he can't keep your intrest. He probably feels the same way you do when he looks at other nude women. You should be the only women he has eyes for and if he loves like he did when he vowed his love for you in front of god then leaving the picture alone won't be a difficult task. Maybe there are also deeper rooted problems that you all can't see maybe you should think about see a marrige consoulor to make sure you relationship stays healthy.
2006-07-06 14:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by redfurry510@sbcglobal.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's neither right nor wrong to be offended and it is very normal. It's a common issue with multiple layers of complexity. First, perhaps both are identifying with the body as who you are. You are more than the body, and so are the other women in the pictures. The issue then becomes respecting each other and caring about the other's feelings. If you have expressed your feelings on the issue, and he is not respecting your feelings, then you have a different problem then the one stated. A man who really loves you would care about your feelings. Regarding him being offended if you chat with other guys on the internet, before commenting on that, I would want to know the context of your chat. If it is sexual in nature, then you also need to respect his feelings on the issue. If it it is simply friends chatting, or talking about common non-sexual interests then you have a right to friends and interests outside of the relationship. However, it would be in the best interest of the relationship if you would invite him to share in those friendships or interests.
Concurrent with that, it is important for us women to understand and respond to how important sex is to a man and to a relationship. As women we need to realize that men are visual and do respond to visual stimulation. That being said, it would be my goal in a relationship to provide my man with both visually appealing stimulation and warm, loving, frequent sex, as well as developing all other aspects of relationship with ourselves, each other, and Divinity. A truly loving relationship where all of these aspects are respected and encouraged can be a sacred and beautiful experience. Mutual love, respect and caring is primary, and supported by good communication. If communication skills are lacking, a good therapist can often help iron out the difficult spots. If the mutual love, respect, and caring is lacking then you and your husband have some decisions to make.
2006-07-06 14:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grown men can still be like lttle boys. They're curious. Don't worry about it. He's with you right? As long as you are taking care of yourself and making sure your a good woman for him, he has no reason to want anyone else.
The reason why he gets upset with for chatting with other guys online is that you are making some form of contact with them. It is different than him looking at pictures because he is not communicating with those pictures.
You could suggest that he take some sexy pictures of you and then he could look at them anytime he wants. You could wear different clothes than you usually wear and even wear wigs. This could be fun for both of you!
2006-07-17 03:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by runningviolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nude pictures will give your husband an erection and allow him to masturbate if you are not interested in sex. If you are and he does not have sex with you I think that is a very big problem and you need to talk it out.
2006-07-06 13:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, do you really think hes going to leave you over a picture??? get over yourself and be glad he plays with yours. guys are going to be guys. they want to see ALL boobs in the world. why dont you join him?? go rent a porno, you might like it. and by you talking to other guys online isnt much different from him looking at pics. whats good for you is good for him and vice versa.
get over it. they are just boobs.
2006-07-06 13:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋