ok..story in a nutshell...been with her for over a year..broke up a couple times during...she initiated the break ups cause she says she didnt know what she wanted except for the last one...of which i initiated because she chose something that i was against over me..(she decided to be a stripper than date me..) knew how much that hurt me...i got over it...i mean whatever...you dont like me for me whatever...move on...k...then 6 months after that..we got back together..(did some drunk dialing...i know...dumb move on my part...but some how ended up together again afterwards..)...now...i have caught her in lies and such and shes not apologizing for being a stripper...which im not asking for an apology....but she hangs it over my head constantly...now...question is..is i need to cut my ties...cause this is just unhealthy....but im stuck in that twilight zone of "is this the right decision..."...i dont think this is a question...but looking for moral support...has anyone been in a similar
2006-07-06 06:45:39 · 21 answers · asked by lastofodyinbreed 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Situation…and how did you deal with it? Ive done everything for this girl….drove her everywhere she needed to go…paid for her meals and what not…helped her find a job…find a place to live…(in the process)…practically bent over backwards for this girl….before the major break up and still afterwards…whats up with me? I think that im giving my ALL to her and truthfully its exhausting. And I think im done. Even if you think this is not a question. Thank you for at least letting me use you as a sound board. Any supportive comments would be appreciated. and please be respectful if you feel the need to leave a comment.. thanks.
2006-07-06 06:45:53 · update #1
Dude! Do you like drama? Why are you involving yourself with a girl who wants to be a stripper and seems to thrive on drama herself? Let it go and go find yourself a normal girl. There are tons of us out there.
2006-07-06 06:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men go to bed with the fantasy ( I am dating a stripper!!) and wake up with the reality (I am dating a stripper). As a profession that is fine is that is the only thing you can do. My friend worked in one for 6 weeks. She was a cocktail waitress though. Those places can turn good girls wrong. Its so easy to take your clothes off for money, imagine what else they do for money. Drugs run through there like water through a hose. They are not good environments for anyone that is not a very strong person dead set against it. It sounds to me like your girl likes to live the life style. Get out before she hurts you any worse. What is it about her that brings you back in? Is she sweet, smart, funny, caring, a good family person? Would you want to have children with her? What qualities does she have other than sexual that make you want her? Find a goodlooking girl that knows she is hot enough to strip but wouldnt because her self respect is way more than any man could afford.
2006-07-06 13:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really really nice caring guy, one who deserves A LOT BETTER!!! Please, do yourself and all the single girls out there who need a sweet guy like you a favor, and force yourself to end this relationship NOW! It will hurt but you will get over it in time, and find someone better for you. She sounds totally self centered, shallow, and cruel. I am sure she must have good qualities too, or you wouldn't be so stuck on her, but try to move on and forget her!
Good luck and be happy! :)
PS In the long run, you will be doing this girlie a favor, too, because she needs to realize the hard way what she has done wrong, if she is ever going to have a decent relationship herself. If you keep spoiling her, she'll never have to grow up and improve as a person and a girlfriend.
2006-07-06 13:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by cooperslassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she's a stripper than you're probably hanging on to her because of her looks. If you have broken up that many times and keep having probs, move on man. Find ur self a new girl so you don't have to deal with all of this drama. You won't have to worry about what's goin on behind ur back and just enjoy the relationship. You can always find a good girl that also looks good
2006-07-06 13:51:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking it off when you have been in a serious relationship is always hard. Let her know that you would rather not stay in contact for a little while. You can't let go of someone slowly. You have to just stop talking to them for a while until you have your feelings under control. Taking a break from seeing or hearing from her should allow you to cool down and move on a little bit. Good luck!
2006-07-06 13:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost ALL of us have thought we loved someone who was no good for us. It is that old forbidden fruit thing, you know? And we stay with them, because we feel that they truly need us, and that everyone else only wants them for some godawful reason. We want to SAVE them. We know that we are the best thing they ever had, and probably ever will have, but WE are sort of miserable, because we are giving and giving, and LOSING who WE REALLY ARE, just to fit in to their world, and try to fulfill their dreams, etc.....Plus, we see an EXCITEMENT to it, and after all, no one likes monotony. We all WANT excitement, and yet, this person is giving us just way too much of it. THEN, AT LONG LAST, one day we wake up and realize that we are losing ourselves and that the other person is the only one who seems satisfied. We realize that we HAVE to get out of this relationship, but our lower extremities say NO! Something in us loves to punish ourselves, and we let other people do it for us, all for the sake of some good sex, or because we have low self-esteem. We realize that we have allowed another human being to smash us, and break us. Yes, my dear, your being has been broken. Your spirit is suffering. You don't want someone else to have your "good thing", but yet, she is no longer a good thing for YOU. When will YOU start thinking of YOU? Obviously, she isn't. Tell yourself EVERY DAY that you deserve better, and one day soon, you will believe it enough to say GOODBYE and mean it enough to never, ever contact her again.
2006-07-06 14:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drama Queen - anyone that is willing to strip to make money does not respect herself therefore she does not respect you and honestly I think she has lost your respect as well. How does she hold her stripping over your head? She was the one that went slumming and acted like a skank. Therefore you should hold it over her head. You need to cut your strings on this one and forget about her - delete number! What if she gets pregnant or something - you are going to have to tell your children and friends that you married or have a kid with a stripper. Not cool. Think of your future - if she is willing to do that for money -what else? Cut your loses and move on - find someone that respects themself and you.
2006-07-06 13:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but I really don't think she is being respectful to your feelings. You need a lady that is going to understand how you feel about her actions. Don't let her lie to you that just is not right. I been there with guys and it hurts a lot. I personally would say get rid of her and see if you can find someone better...
2006-07-06 13:51:10 · answer #8 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a complex or something.I'm for real,what makes you feel that you DESERVE to be treated poorly.What is it about you that you think is soooo bad that you deserve HER lies and cheating.Good lord man love yourself already!She treats you badly b/c YOU let her.Kick her to the curb and around the corner b/c YOU deserve better.It's all good to be nice and caring,but not to women like her.You need to MOVE ON.There's a woman out there dying to meet you,go find her and love her and be loved back.
2006-07-06 13:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by hippiegirl672003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off the cross, for Pete's sake. You are never going to agree on anything, and she is in control of the relationship and knows it . She thinks you are a whuss...and why shouldn't she? Cry your eyes out, listen to every sad song in the book, light a bunch of candles, get out every picture you have of her, go on a real jag...and after a short time, you will be so damned sick of the feeling of self pity, you will emerge from the room a cured man. Get her out of your life and soul....a real concentrated dose as suggested above will work wonders for you. Good luck
2006-07-06 13:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋