I met this man i really like but he is married and has a daughter.. i like him so0o0o much i am usually a girl that can control her feelings but with him i cant i want to stop liking him but it seems impossible plus he says he likes me 2, he also says he is not in-love with his wife but i wonder y wont he leave her if he doesn't love her??? Not only that but i am a virgin and i like him so much i want him 2 be my first what do i do???? how can i control my feelings?? should i let my feelings go??? HELP!!!
2006-07-06 06:38:01 · 37 answers · asked by Karina M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LoL!!! Sounds like a story from my own little funny life. There was this girl that my ex bf was interested in. He won't leave me but wanted this VIRGIN girl on the side. To make the story short, he screwed her, took her innocent, and till this day I wonder where she is and if he really liked her or the jewel she kept beneath her. LoL. He wants me back, prays to God for forgiveness, now open your young naive eyes and realize this man is just in the heap of stupidity. If he doesn't love his wife and doesn't care for his child ask him nicely to divorce his wife and have you a whore for sometime, till he is really ready to settle down.
2006-07-06 06:45:01 · answer #1 · answered by missdontgivafukusa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were married would you want some one to have sex with your husband? Just leave him alone. he is MARRIED. Do want to be labeled as a home wrecker? You are in lust and infatuated with him, it probably turns you on more because he is married and what a risk if you guys were to do it.
He still loves his wife, he just wants to fill your head up with lies so you will be there for him when he doesn't want his wife. He seems to be a dog. If he truly didn't love her nor wanted to work on his relationship they wouldn't be together and you would and maybe are one of the many women he is messing around with. use your instincts and leave this man alone.
You just don't want to control your feelings around him. You like and enjoy the feeling you get when he is around. The jump in body temperature, increase heart rate and perception, also the butterflies in your stomach. you get all these feelings whenever you are around some one you are attracted to. They are more intense when you get attention from that some one also. Go find you a single guy and begin a friendship then relationship with him.
2006-07-06 06:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is truly a no brainer, any married man or woman that cheats on their spouse can only cause trouble... maybe not today, or maybe not even next month, but it will come and you will hate yourself for doing that type of thing.. if you don't want it done to you, why in the world woud you do it to someone else? Does his wife or daughter deserve this?. Love/lust is a very dangerous thing... ever see fatal attraction? I think it is a total waste to just throw away your virginity on someone that doesn't even treasure a vow.... Good luck and do the right thing....
2006-07-06 06:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by mullikindonna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HES MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! STOP BEING A HOMEWRECKER.. and the only reason he's attracted to u is because he probably knows your a virgin and he just wants to be with a virgin not actually you, DO U REALIZE that he has a daughter and because of you, u could ruin her life permenantly.. IF YOU HAVE ANY SELF RESPECT STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN AND FIND YOUR OWN MAN.. stop destroying the childrens lives over your own selfish needs, and id be willing to bet he'll never leave his wife he just wants to have sex with you thats it.. just use u and throw u away.. stop being so damn nieve..u saved yourself for a reason which is great, but dont give it to someone that doesnt deserve it.. STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN!!!!!!!!!! oh and on the off chance that he does leave his wife and hook up with u, if he's capable of cheating on his wife that he has a child with.. He has no morals or values AND HE"LL JUST CHEAT ON YOU TOO.. WISE UP!
2006-07-06 07:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do:
You now have discovered the kind of guy you like. You now know your "type", and you know who you want.
So: this guy has said "I like you", but he's married and has kids. Forget the wife for the moment (although you shouldn't) -- how can you do that to his KIDS? How can you be the person that possibly causes those kids to grow up in a broken home? It will be your fault as much as his if it happens, and it WILL happen.
Instead, tell him this: "It's a shame I didn't meet you before you got married, but there's no way I can be involved with a married guy -- I'm sure you understand and respect that. But here's the thing: you probably hang out with people like yourself, and I'd probably like your friends just as much as I like you. Do you have any single friend like you that you can hook me up with?"
If he's a good guy, he'll steer you in the right direction. If he's a bad guy, he'll get upset or annoyed, or try to pressure you into an affair -- but then you'll understand what a bad guy he is.
2006-07-06 06:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't let that dirty old man steal your virginity! Your first experience shouldn't be with someone who is cheating on his wife. Someday you'll be married and have to worry about your man meeting young girls like you are now. Think of the future and that dog's wife and daughter probably have no idea what a jerk he is. A real man, one you should want is better than that. Hold out for better, and don't hurt that mom and daughter he should be thinking about instead of your butt.
2006-07-06 06:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer already. Otherwise you dont post your Q here! You just need validation? Here...do you want to
1) Be second best!
2) Clean his underwear, laundry and meals
3) Sacrifice your virginity
4) Feel guilty/regret the rest of your life
5) Be called " Homewrecker" by his kids
6) Be manipulated
7) Subject to his instant gratification
8) Label as a mistress/douche bag etc
9) Be a follower vs leader
10) Share same sex 'organ' with his wife!
10.a ) Help to pay his rent/bills after his wife divorce because she will keep the house/alimony?
Go on....make your call!
2006-07-06 07:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing knowing like you said that you are a virgen,that shows that you must have very high morals and that is good.Thinking about that do u really want that to go to waste interfering with a married dude who has a kid.If he is not in love with her when did he find that out and why is he with her still?Why dont yoou just hook up with someone who will deserve all your wait for the right person.Control your way of thinking and that will control your way of wanting
2006-07-06 06:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by vito194 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should avoid this. First of all you do not want to be a homewrecker. Second of all he wont leave his wife for you. You sound like you are really young. You have your whole life ahead of you to look for love. Also if he does leave his wife and decides to be with you then he dicides to leave you then what are yo going to do. You need to stop thinking about this guy. Give your virginity up until you are married. Just dont give it up to any looser. This guy sounds like a looser. Remember what goes around comes around
2006-07-06 07:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by beenie 21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karina, Karina, Karina,
Stop the madness!! If he's doing that to his wife, what do you think he would do to you if you give him your most precious possession?! Don't be a fool. You need to continue be the "girl that can control her feelings"---you waited this long, you can wait some more. Too much baggage. You can find a man who is not married without children. He obviously loves her. The only thing he can give is dyck---no emotional attachment--just dyck!!! You don't want your first time to be with someone who is not emotionally attached to your p*ssy and your heart.
2006-07-06 06:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by gzmom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋