2006-07-06 06:32:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Who you are. Who you hope to be. What you want your life to look and feel like. Does this person share these images? Enough of them for you to comprimise without sacrificing an important part of yourself? Do they offer something to your life that you enhances instead of detracts? Do they WANT to be with you? Have you discussed any of life's big questions? If there was no tv, no out, no distraction could you live with them without killing them?
Is your life better together than it is apart?
2006-07-06 07:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by darling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Financial stability is one of the most important. This DOES NOT mean how much money the man makes! Financial stability is about the bills getting paid on time -- both his and hers. A man with a six-figure income and a history of bankruptcy is not financially stable, nor is a woman who only wants a rich man so she can spend his money as irresponsibly as she spends her own.
Sexual compatibility is another key issue. This includes (but is not limited to) similar tastes (do you like the same kinds of things) and similar levels of desire (do you both want it with about the same frequency). It is critical that you both have the same basic ideas about fidelity. If not, you're not sexually compatible no matter how good the sex is.
Last thing I'll talk about is commonality. Most people will talk about common interests -- and you should have some interests in common. But even more important than common interests is common _values_. Do you have similar ideas on politics and religion/spirituality? What are your views on child rearing and discipline? Do you want traditional gender roles in your marriage, or something else? These are the deal-breaker questions here. Someone who is too different from you in this area is not a suitable life partner for you. I've found that a good test for this area is how well a person gets along with your family of origin (especially your siblings); that's where you get most of your core values, whether you know it or not.
2006-07-06 13:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion, morals, and meet the family. After all once you have committed to that individual you will also marry the whole pack of inlaws. (You might not like them, but at least you will know how they are) You might want to read, "Lies at the Altar," I don't remember the author, but it is an eye opener. Also if you go to the Dr. Phil webpage you will find good ideas. I read all of these after I married, ( going on 4yrs of marriage) and ironically I did look into somethings that they mentioned.
Some people say it's common sense, but when you are blinded what you might think is LOVE there is no such thing as common sense.
2006-07-06 13:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by mghv0002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to raise kids under the same religous affiliation, or are you going to allow them to decide and you go along. Do you want a slob for a partner, or one that takes care to ask you what your preferences are, or one that uses the TP on the top or bottom, or do they have drug addictions in their family history, or can you get along with your new mother-in-law, or will they rule your life? How do they handle the money today, and will they do so tomorrow?
2006-07-06 13:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Cabana C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion the biggest consideration should be how devoted and how much he loves you. When deciding on marriage I feel strongly that you should pick a partner who is head over heels for you vs. you being the one head over heel for him.
In the long run you will experience greater cooperation, kindness, assistance, understanding, love and companionship. I say this from experience.
2006-07-06 13:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their family - interact with the family often before you pick your life partner. You can find out allot about a person from their family and see what the future may hold. Watch how they all interact and handle disagreements and suggestions for one another.
2006-07-06 13:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by sskaggs_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything u have always dreamed of having in a partner
2006-07-06 14:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told when I first started dating that I shouldnt date anyone I couldnt see myself marrying. That has always helped me make good decisions.
2006-07-06 13:36:34 · answer #8 · answered by bunnyblue421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINGS YOU HAVE IN COMMON, GOALS ETC
2006-07-06 13:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT ARE THEIR SEXUAL HANG-UPS?
2006-07-13 05:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by terry j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋