Ok so here it is, I'm 21, in college and engaged. I'm looking at getting married between 1-2 years from literally now. All of sudden, I'm feeling cold feet. (and it's not even close to the wedding yet). I told my one guy friend to enjoy this time right now (b/c he just got dumped) and just date around b/c I remember when I dated around not too long ago, and I told him how fun it was. After hanging up the phone w/ him it hit me, I'll never get to do that again. then it's like wow .... scary...not to mention the guy on the phone was a guy I use to love. but we never got our chance. after having lunch w/ him yesterday, it made me think, what if. I feel awful for thinking or having those feelings. am I terrible? I need some major help/advice, so please no ignorant comments like "tyou;re stupid" or something of the sort. constructive critism only.
thank you!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 06:32:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have the power over your own life; you are in control. You should only marry if you can say this without fear. Otherwise, you're not ready for marriage. Don't let family or friends pressure you. Be free, its ok.
2006-07-06 07:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well by acepting a proposal you said that you are willin to sped the rest of yoru life with that person and be happy to grow old with them. You are young and it is still a developing time in your life. Does your fiance make you happy do you love him? If you said yes then focous on the future. Everyone gets a little scared about being married. I'm scared about it and my bf hasn't even proposed. But see the difference is that I couldn't imagine my life without him. I would never want to hurt him. And once you hurt your guy they have trouble forgetting it and moving on. Its like a scratch on a cd it just doesn't work the same anymore. You have to think about his feelings first when you are thinking about other men and wanting to be with them and date around. How crushed will he be? It takes a guy a lot of courage and determanation to ask the woman he most loves in the world to marry him and be with him till they are parted by death. Think about your decisions carefully.
2006-07-06 13:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure about your fiance, don't get married. You need to really love the person you are getting married to. There is got to be a lo of love and comprehension in a marriage. It's difficult enough being really sure about your couple, if you're not sure about him ended now and enjoy life a bit more, and marry the person you really love once you find him.
2006-07-06 13:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by jessiquers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do some serious thinking. If you are having second thoughts right now your confidence about the man you are going to marry is not very high. dont carry on this engagement any longer if you feel like you are missing out. you are still so young, you need to experience life.. good luck.
2006-07-06 13:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋