I have a friend who is in a relationship with a recovering drunk. She also has a child. He has thrown her out of his home at least 2 in the last 6 months, and treats her poorly(constantly verbally degrading and neglectful).
Not to mention his very controlling nature.(His friends and family show-up at random times to make sure she's home, and she has no car, job, or phone. Per his orders.)
No, he's not the babys' daddy and they're not married.
I've known them about 7 months, and I don't think the environment he's building/presenting for them, is at all conducive to raising a child. Surely, constant arguing and her unhappiness must affect the child?
They are all fairly young: Mother 20, Child 2, Drunk 22.
Is it wrong of me to try and convince her to leave him permanently?
Before anyone jumps to conclusions, I have absolutely no romantic or sexual interest in this woman what so ever.
What should I do?
2006-07-06 06:26:43 · 5 answers · asked by blackwolf917 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd talk to her directly and ask her to go see a counselor....they have free services through the city to help people....I'd go that route before I called CPS.....she might just need some encouragement to pull the trigger so to speak.....
This is another side you need to consider.....in this situation....she is trapped....no job, no car, no nothing.....how will she live? Where will she live? How will she support her child? These are questions that need to be answered....and are exactly why he's insisting on it.....she is trapped.....and its not an easy situation to dig out of .....
2006-07-06 06:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by ruwild4wade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I think you are a caring friend and I would be doing the same thing your doing being concerned. I was in a relationship kinda like that once and the best thing I did was get out. I think you should try to help or convince her to leave him now or soon. That's if she's not too scared too. He might have so much control over her that she might be too scared to leave.But I think you should try to do what you can to convince her to leave. Don't be too pushy but just try. No one deserves to live like that. Good Luck!
2006-07-06 13:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the nearest women's shelter and tell them of the situation, and follow their advice. This situation is actually too big for you to handle on your own, and potentially dangerous. Good luck.
2006-07-06 13:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by coffeebean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, report the family to child welfare in your community. Your name is kept confidential, so she will have no idea who reported her.
She obviously isn't a fit parent either, to keep a child in that situation. They can help her to get herself together and out of the situation.
2006-07-06 13:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by barrwiese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call childerens services!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-06 13:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋